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cleanthehouse Thu 08-Feb-18 10:08:29

Your MIL said to DH in front of you " I'll bring so and so with me on Thursday, make sure the house is clean" ? Mind you my house is always clean, DH does nothing and she knows I'm the one who does everything?

cleanthehouse Thu 08-Feb-18 10:09:22

I'm a regular but NCed for this

Tink2007 Thu 08-Feb-18 10:09:28

I would tell her to sod off and don’t bother coming.

Tink2007 Thu 08-Feb-18 10:09:59

Or ask her if she knows where all the cleaning products are so she can get cleaning to her specifications the day before.

cleanthehouse Thu 08-Feb-18 10:10:40

AIBU to feel insulted? DH obviously doesn't think it's an insult and it's a normal thing to say.

Snowydaysarehere Thu 08-Feb-18 10:11:43

Why does she feel able to bring someone to your home? Cf on both counts.

Mulch Thu 08-Feb-18 10:13:01

I'd tell her to go elsewhere

Myheartbelongsto Thu 08-Feb-18 10:13:13

I wouldn't let her in!

Categoric Thu 08-Feb-18 10:13:41

I think you and DH need to go out on Thursday. Telling you to clean for her guest is a power play.

lurkingnotlurking Thu 08-Feb-18 10:13:52

I'd be pissed. Who wouldn't be? And I would absolutely not have a clean house on that day.

Awwlookatmybabyspider Thu 08-Feb-18 10:15:23

Who exactly is this 'such a body' she's bringing to your home. The Queen or something

Ohforfoxsakereturns Thu 08-Feb-18 10:15:24

I’d make sure the house is sparkling. Fresh flowers. Everything.

Then I’d take a shit and not flush. (Chances are if you have small children this will already happen.)

Categoric Thu 08-Feb-18 10:16:56

Oh and divide all tasks between you from now on so you get equal spare time. He doesn’t sound much of a catch though if he expects you to do the housework and be treated with disrespect by his Mother.

AjasLipstick Thu 08-Feb-18 10:17:34

Oh I'd have called her on it INSTANTLY!

"What's it got to do with you how clean my house is? I might shit on the floor now you've said that."

Or something like that.

Wellfuckmeinbothears Thu 08-Feb-18 10:18:44

I'd be really offended and call her out on it there and then!

lurkingnotlurking Thu 08-Feb-18 10:18:48

ajaslipstick god, you're more feisty than me ;)

MagicNumbers1234 Thu 08-Feb-18 10:19:33

Yanbu. Who's she bringing around? nosey

Awwlookatmybabyspider Thu 08-Feb-18 10:20:25

It's the "I'll bring so and so with me on Thursday" that's got my goat. Like she's doing a favor

timeisnotaline Thu 08-Feb-18 10:20:55

If she said to dh I’d say yes dh , you had better make sure the house is clean. And say to mil I can’t promise anything mind, you know he’s not really housetrained.

RibenaMonsoon Thu 08-Feb-18 10:23:36

I'd leave the place in a state just to prove a point. No one tells me what to do in my own home.

Very very rude behaviour!

Queenofthedrivensnow Thu 08-Feb-18 10:33:01

I think I would reply 'you best pop in early and get on with it'

Willow2017 Thu 08-Feb-18 10:49:14

I would have said something like "well maybe you better teach your ds how clean you want it cos i am sick of doing it all myself and am going on strike."😀
Bloody cheek who is she inviting round to your house? Did she ask if it was ok to do so or if it was convenient for you?

mydietstartsmonday Thu 08-Feb-18 10:51:56

It is a throw away comment; if you get offended at any slight remark you will not have a relationship with her. I would say it about my own house; my mum would say it, I might be a bit miffed but I would move on quickly.

Gottagetmoving Thu 08-Feb-18 10:52:30

I wouldn't be bothered. I don't really care that much what other people think of my house one way or another.
My mil was tactless and said worse things than that. I don't see the point of being offended. I wouldn't see it as my's your husband's.

Oohyoudevilyou Thu 08-Feb-18 10:54:20

My mum once had relatives visiting and rang to ask if she could bring them over to us for a cuppa. She asked "is your house tidy?" when I said that it was a wet weekend and the kids had got their toys out, so not really, no. She said "oh, OK - we'll leave it. I'll take them for a coffee at the garden centre instead". My parent's house is normal not showhome tidy, but mum feels the need to rush around like a blue arsed fly cleaning and tidying whenever any people visit, which was always very stressful as a kid. Now she's trying to project those anxieties onto me!

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