DS is 16 almost 17. During the last few months it seems we can't talk anymore. Every conversation ends up in an argument. This is making me so sad, we've always had a good relationship, even in the more difficult years when we were struggling with a lot, we could always talk to him about our differences and disagreements.
Now, things are better finance/family etc. But DS seems to be on a "my parents are stupid and don't understand anything" mode the whole time. I know this is very typical of teenagers but I can't help worry that this will set the tone of our relationship with him forever :(
He seems to get upset, overly upset whenever me or DH try to tell him about something that we think needs to change. For example, if he stays up too late on a school night, really simple things like that. The moment I open my mouth, he interrupts me with "yeah yeah ok whatever" and either stops talking altogether or it turns into an argument where he shouts and (ashamed to admit) I lose my shit. DH has taken a step back and he thinks this is teenage behaviour and our relationship will be fine.
But I'm worried that for some reason, DS has decided that he can't trust us as adults and we're letting him down. And I will never know because he won't say, and if I try to ask, he gets upset. AIBU to be this worried?
Just for background, DS is doing fine at school, has a good social life , no drugs or anything like that. It's just his relationship with us seems to be a mess. And it's breaking my heart :(
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To worry about my relationship with DS or will this pass
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WhatIWantToKnow · 21/01/2018 11:04
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