More of a WWYD.
DH and I have moved from London down to Devon. We bought the house a couple of years ago but have been working on doing it up as it was quite dated. So we are finally moving everything in now and plan to be living there properly by the end of the month.
My DM moved down about 6 months ago from Birmingham. She was looking to move houses and I mentioned how nice it was here, not really expecting her to move but she did. So she now lives about 20 minutes from us and DGM care home is a further 15 minutes from DMs house so I see them a few times a week, we’ve always been very close and we have Sunday dinner together and I take the kids down after school some days.
DF and his family live just under 3 hours away and we see them once a month at bed, once ever two months at least. This is because he makes an effort to come down and see us one month so we do the next and three hours isn’t too much of a drive for us.
However, DH’s family live 8 hours away and it’s becoming a bit of a problem. His family refuse, point blank, to travel down to see us meaning we have to cart our children on a 8 hour journey where they then won’t let us stay in their house and we have to pay for a hotel. DH is starting to say that I’m deliberately not seeing his family but seeing mine all the time.
I’ve said we could travel to them possibly every 6 months, and then they could come down during the summer for a week or so when the kids are off school so it doesn’t interfere with our routine. I’d be happy to see them more if they travelled down.
To be fair to DPIL they understand why we don’t see them but would like to see us more. But then won’t make any effort on their part. DH misses his family which is completely understandable and I’ve suggested he go up and visit them for a weekend or so and DM can help me with the kids but he said that his family would want to see their DGC.
I’m at a loss of what to do, I don’t know if I am seeing my family too much. But we’ve always been very close so I don’t think I am. And then I’m unsure if I am BU to not visit his family more but annoys me that they expect us to travel up but won’t come and see us.
Anyone been in the same shoes? How do I areas it with DH.
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BrokenPogoStick · 20/01/2018 13:38
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