To be annoyed DP read my MN thread about him?

[Donotreadthisdp]

Or am I overreacting?

Relatively new relationship, 6 months. I sometimes use MN in front of him and he'll usually read over my shoulder which is fine. Couple weeks ago he asked if I post on here, I say yes, then he asks if I've ever posted about him, I tell him yes I had posted a few weeks before that about an issue I've discussed with him and we had already sorted out. Fine. I ask him if he has a problem with that, he says no not at all, he understands and I've spoken to him about it so it's fine. I then put my self in his shoes and think if he had posted something about me on an online forum I would want to read it because I'm a nosey feck. So I ask him if he's going to go and look for it, he replies not if I don't want him to but he's curious. I say it's embarrassing, I'd really rather you didn't look for it but if you really want to know I'll show it to you right now. He then promises he won't look for it. Fine I think. Yesterday I asked him if he searched for it (in a jokey way, not expecting him to say yes) he says yes he had and had found and read it, he thought I was mad at him a few days a go so has looked for it to see if there was anything he could do to work on (I was not mad at him at all) he said sorry and that he'd never do it again. I frequently name change so he only found the one post and that was through scrolling back for ages and reading different threads until he recognised the situation. I'm really quite annoyed but I'm not sure if I'm being overdramatic or not?

[silvousplaitmerci]

Why on earth did you tell him you'd posted about him?

[Trinity66]

I couldn't not look if it were a thread about me tbh

[Shadow666]

Um, with all due respect if you’re going to post in public about him, he’s going to read it. He probably didn’t intend to read it but curiosity got the better of him.

[Huntinginthedark]

I would never ever fess up to writing on here

[CrazyExIngenue]

At least he's honest!

[mailTo]

You're being very unreasonable to post on a public and indexed forum about him, to have told him and yet expect him to keep away.

You're being dramatic and unfair and a little confused about what this forum is. You must have some idea though as you frequently name change.

Actually, I'd be pretty annoyed with DH if he was posting about our private lives on a forum.

[BitOutOfPractice]

I think it would be Avery unusual person who wouldn’t read a thread about themselves.

[Whatsinanameanyway201]

Well.. YAB(a bit)U.. Its a public forum so anyone can read. If you didn't want him to see you shouldn't have told him you posted about him? X

[NoqontroI]

I'd have to look to if I knew someone had written about me. At least he was honest about it.

[Donotreadthisdp]

I told him because he asked, I wouldn't of told him he hadn't.
I wouldn't read it if he asked me not to.
I had a feeling I was overreacting, I think I'm just embarrassed that he read it

[Trinity66]

Actually, I'd be pretty annoyed with DH if he was posting about our private lives on a forum.

Same tbh

[WorraLiberty]

Massively over dramatic, yes.

[Lakitu101]

How can you be annoyed? I know that I would go hunting for a post if my DP said he had written one about me.

[ChasedByBees]

I would have looked.

[Huntinginthedark]

I wonder what she posted about him now
Can you link to your old thread?!

[midnightmisssuki]

but you told him you wrote it - of course he would read it - i would! YABU.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Why tell him? You can't blame him for wanting to read it I'd be more than pissed off if someone did that to me..and told me.

[NurseButtercup]

I then put my self in his shoes and think if he had posted something about me on an online forum I would want to read it because I'm a nosey feck.

Yabu because of your own words.

[MrsKoala]

DH knows i post and he knows my username. He can read it if he likes but he never does. I never say anything on here i don't say to him. Everything is true, so if he had a problem with it then i'd say stop being an arse in the first place!

[Blackteadrinker77]

His curiosity was natural.

Your making a mountain out of a mole hill

[Blackteadrinker77]

you're- stupid auto correct

[MrsKoala]

I also don't like reading criticisms of myself so i wouldn't read something i thought may be negative. (i don't read the MN Reddit stuff in case i am mentioned for example) I wouldn't read stuff if he wrote about me. It would be like reading his diary. It's anonymous so altho it's public it's not like you are telling their friends.I see MN like an online diary which gives you opinions.

[allthgoodusernamesaretaken]

Actually, I'd be pretty annoyed with DH if he was posting about our private lives on a forum

MN would be a very dull place if people stopped posting about their private lives. I think it's OK if you name change / don't give too much detail away

[10thingsIKnowAboutYou]

Does he know you posted about being upset that he read your previous post?