Basically, my Mum cannot cook. She microwaves everything, and disregards use by and best before dates. My sister has just messaged me to say that Mum is cooking what we refer to as one of our specialities for dinner, which is chicken that she's defrosted in the microwave, left to sit on the counter while she's out, then cooked in the microwave before pouring a jar of (unheated) curry sauce over it.
I've grown up to be what most people would call a picky eater. I'm getting braver with the foods I will try, but have realised in recent years that several of the foods I thought I didn't like actually just aren't supposed to taste the way they do when my Mum cooks them!
The problem is that I'm about to spend two weeks at my parent's house over Christmas. They live in a different country, so it's costing quite a lot to get there, but I don't mind that too much because it is Christmas. However I also suffer from anxiety, and can already feel the dread setting in at the thought of dealing with Mum's cooking (what if I can’t eat it, what if I get sick, what if she gets upset etc). If it was one meal, or for a weekend, I'd eat what I could and have a bigger meal when I got home, or squirrel away a packet of biscuits so that I didn't go hungry, but I can't do that for two weeks.
We've tried offering to cook, or help with the cooking, but she no longer allows this. We've tried suggesting that we go out for a meal, or order take-away (which we'd pay for), but she doesn't want to do that because, as she sees it, there is perfectly good food at home. We know that catering for us is at least partly her way of showing that she cares, and something she feels she can still do for her grown up children, but it also stresses her out, and she gets annoyed and upset if we aren't tremendously grateful for her efforts.
Any suggestions as to how to deal with this? I don't want to upset my Mum, particularly over Christmas. My sister also has two small children and doesn’t want to risk them getting poorly if they’re eating out of date food.
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Sidhe79 · 14/12/2017 15:01
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