I can see this disagreement turning nasty after walking past my neighbour today. I really don't want to cause any trouble.
Just moved in a few months ago to our house (detached) and on bonfire night neighbour did a firework display which was an hour long.
It didn't bother us in the slightest. We say hello and are friendly. Happy days.
I woke up the next day to find our whole back garden littered with off cuts from their display. The garden is quite big and the place was littered with disintegrated cardboard.
I thought 'that's annoying' but then didn't get to wound up about it because we had our garderner coming to clear up the mess that autumn brings (leaves and twigs everywhere).
Went out round the front to chuck some rubbish and noticed the front garden littered with the plastic heads from fireworks. Then I went to the back and noticed that the grass was littered with the mounts that the firework are attached to. Long thin wooden sticks, plastic arrow caps just everywhere . There was some in the ground just like you would throw a spear or javelin into grass. Have I explained that properly? Just long sticks about 30 - 40cm penetrated into our grass. By this point I was annoyed.
Went upstairs to get changed and then noticed our balcony on bedroom floor was littered with plastic.
I told my DP about it at breakfast. He jumped up and went outside to check the cars which I thought was OTT and then he came back inside looking really pissed off.
He told me both our cars had been pelted with the offcuts of their fireworks, looked like little stones had hit our cars all over. He went round to the neighbour's to telll them what had happened and I future if they could please let us know when they do displays so we can move our cars.
We were met with a defensive response. Comments such as:
'Well no one has ever complained before'
'So you're saying we can't do a firework display?'
'It's not our fault'
My DP responded kindly enough with 'yes, I get that no one has ever complained before but we are just asking that you tell us in future just so we can take necessary action to cover our cars' and 'we are not dictating what you can and can't do but please take our garden and cars into consideration' etc etc
Still very defensive.
The husband came round to look at the cars and said 'well we didn't throw any rocks into the firework display ' and generally didn't take responsibility for the mess and reluctantly apologised.
We were both a annoyed but reminded ourselves that gerderner was going to clean up.
We took both cars to get cleaned and luckily no scratch marks.
The next day and many days after that I noticed some bits of cardboard offcuts from the display had bits of stone and rocks nestled in them.
We've had half of our garden cleaned and the other half is being done next week. And I keep coming across bits of stones nestled in cardboard rolls. I've just realised that the fireworks do have rocks and stones in them and these are what pelted our cars.
We still have more of the fire work off cuts to clear up - and although the garden is half done the gardener wasn't able to pick all the bits up.
I walked past the neighbour today face on and he just blanked me. I smiled and as I was about to say 'hello' he looked straight ahead and just went.
And now I'm annoyed.
We were being as nice about it as we possibly could, we didn't ask them to clean up the mess they made in our garden nor our cars but they seem to have taken it really badly . We just asked them to tell us so we can move our cars.
I don't know how to handle it when they have another display. Without it getting really sour.
I don't want the argument but I don't want to pay for their mess either.
I don't want to spoil their fun but I don't want to be taken for a mug either.
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IncredibleBulk · 11/11/2017 20:30
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