My husband and I aren’t getting on so well lately. I have a problem with the way he speaks to me at times -he says all married couples are like this and if I asked other people they’d agree with him.
The latest thing happened tonight. We were watching TV and he said he was thirsty. I said the programme only had 10 minutes to go. He asked why I had a problem with him getting a drink. I said I didn’t, that I was pointing out how little time was left in case he hadn’t realised. He said if he wanted a drink he would get one and I couldn’t stop him.
I was honestly gobsmacked and I tried to explain again but he wasn’t having any of it. It was obvious I was upset. I said it was unbelievable how he was behaving and came upstairs and got three texts from him:
- No, you are unbelievable. That should not have been an issue. I can't believe you've abandoned me over that.
- "I just need to grab a drink." "OK."
- That would have been the normal way to do it. No drama, no argument and certainly no abandoning your spouse.
His latest apology flowers are still fresh on the mantelpiece. Last weekend was ruined when he apologised for spilling coffee on a book I’d left out. I said Ok as I was trying to mop it up and he said “I think the correct response is ‘don’t worry about it, it’s fine’.
I don’t know how much longer I can do this. Is it me? Or are all marriages like this?