Back story..
I am married, have 3 children DD1(28), DD2 (21) and DS(19) and a husband. DS is living with us PT and also at his GF, DD2 has moved out with her BF very happy.
DD1 moved out when she was 17 to go in the army, married a serviceman and left the army after 7yrs, DD1 Son in Law and their dog (A collie/spaniel cross) moved in with us for 18months, so they could travel America for a month, and then save for their own house.
They found a house, bought it then a week later DD1 left son in law as she didn't love him any more and moved in with her work mate.
Fine so far......
I have three dogs which I chose because they are clean and we don't get a dog smell with them. I never wanted her dog to come to our house, but they moved in so had to happen.
Anyway DD1 has got into a few financial problems, spending beyond her means, I think to keep up with her work mates. I suggested she move in with us on a token rent to help her get back on her feet financially, DH has already paid off her credit card, which she is paying back to him.
We have just come back from a weeks holiday UK, which DH and I booked and invited her on, and she was awful, she brought some work with her, which is fine, but she wanted us to go out and not make noise. She was also grumpy and we found ourselves having to walk on egg shells around her as her moods were up and down.
She left early, in a huff
So I send her an email (it was easier than a showdown), basically saying I didn't want her to move in anymore as we are so different and it was clear on holiday that it would just be too stressful. I also look after her dog, which she shares with her xDH, but I have told her I don't want to anymore and they should find someone else by the end of Oct.
I have found her to be aloof and above her station since she started her new job, she has zero respect for me and picks me up on how a speak or do things...
So AIBU to say I just don't want her to move it, as she has thrown a big strop and deleted herself off our family whatsapp group.
AIBU?
DD1, Her dog and moving in .... AIBU
Greenkit · 08/10/2017 13:10
The email might have been easier, but I really think this should have been a face-to-face conversation
If I would have started this convo off with my dd she just would have walked off or said something spikey back. I honestly can't speak to mine if it's not in a sing song voice 
She is demanding, and needs to act a bit more grown up!
What kind of dog do you have btw? 
not relevant, but just curious. I think the only non smelly dogs I know are whippets,and cockapoos!
Re the holiday, her attitude was 'well I will go home then' which she did.
I cant speak to her when she is in a mood, she would just not listen or walk off at least with an email she could read and digest.
She started a whatsapp group added me and DH said 'Thanks for the email' and left
The dog is her baby and cant do any thing wrong, she is unpredictable and will go for other dogs when out, but no its everyone elses dog.
I don't like them upstairs, but she takes her dog up there in the bedroom on the spare bed.
The dog is long fur and gets wet and muddy and smelly, she brings her in and I have to clear up the mud trail on the walls and kitchen cabinets. If I say anything I am just picking on her dog.
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