DP and I separated when I was 10 weeks pregnant and I gave birth to our son three weeks ago. Obviously ex DP is coming to my house for contact but I'm finding it really irritating and I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable so I'd appreciate your honesty. Ex DP works shifts so he comes round at various times of day for around 3-4 hours at a time. He will not take on board anything I've said about DS and so DS generally spends the duration of contact crying.
For example - if ex DP arrives and DS wakes from a nap he'll pick him up and keep saying 'what's the matter?' 'There's no need to cry' etc even though DS is obviously wet and uncomfortable. If DS is tired, ex DP will walk round holding and rocking him while he screams the house down. I've explained to ex DP that I feed DS until he's sleepy but not asleep then put him in his moses basket with my hand on his tummy and he settles himself without tears. Ex DP said he won't do that because he wants to hold him
I get that he wants to hold him and feel like he's doing something but I don't think it's fair on DS to be upset for such long periods unnecessarily. I can't get anything done when ex DP is here because of the screaming and him then asking me to feed DS to calm him down.
AIBU to be irritated by ex DP continuing to do what he wants and ignoring my suggestions of what'll help DS? He keeps saying what a high maintenance baby he is but when it's just the two of us, he very rarely cries.
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To be irritated over ex DPs contact with our new born?
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RogerThatOver · 07/10/2017 22:08
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