NC, as delicate matter.
We had our first child 8 weeeks ago and I'm on maternity leave now. I started maternity one week before he was born, so whilst last month's paycheck was okay, this one will be half pay.
DP wanted a baby more than me, so i agreed on the proviso that he looks for a better paid job (he's on entry level wage for his sector - work is unskilled so not very high).
I earn more than DP, but I'm not a high earner by any means. With our combined wages we do okay as we live in cheaper part of country, but on just his wage we won't manage when I drop to stat pay.
At the moment, DP pays mortgage, council tax, internet and pet insurance. I pay utilities, home insurance and car related costs (loan for car, insurance, tax) and the majority of the food bill. I also typically buy extras and spend on home improvement. When I'm on stat pay, my wages will just cover my bills, but I will have nothing extra for food and other additionals.
Our house also needs major improvements. In particular, it needs a complete rewrite as I don't think it's safe. I have got a new 0% credit card to cover this as our savings aren't enough, but I won't have the means to pay it off for a while.
DP has zero interest in finances. He doesn't really seem to understand that we literally won't be able to eat in a few months. He has looked at (let alone applied for) zero jobs.
I BF (and DS will not take a bottle) so it would not really make sense for DP to be on paternal leave whilst I work. I know it's possible, but I don't really want to be doing that. And at any rate, DP would still need a better paid job to help with childcare costs.
I'm annoyed that DP doesn't take this seriously. AIBU to expect him to at least be looking for other positions (as he promised me he would)?
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To think he should be looking for a new job
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BrokeAndFedUp · 20/09/2017 04:25
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