To think if you say you'll do something you should then stick to it ?

[goldensyrupisshit]

So I know it's nothing major in the grand scheme of things but I'm pretty fucked off. I've a few appointments coming up shortly and a trusted person ( not going into specifics as outing ) has royally dropped me in the shit. Now if this person had originally said sorry I'm not available that would've been fine I could've a) arranged someone else or b) cancelled. Now it's too late to cancel and I'm flapping trying to sort out alternative care. So am I being unreasonable to think you shouldn't agree to something if your unwilling to commit ? Btw there was no reason given to suddenly becoming unavailable.

[Aquamarine1029]

I agree with you. You're only as good as your word. Obviously, sometimes there can be circumstances beyond your control when you have to go back on your word, but if that's the case, you are responsible for making arrangements to stay true to your word as much as possible.

[IDoDaChaCha]

I'd be annoyed too OP. If this is a pattern of behaviour I wouldn't rely on them again in future.

[goldensyrupisshit]

IDO not a chance in hell will I ever rely on this person again. I can totally understand and sympathise if something sudden has come up but thinking back this person has let me down before last minute although have a good reason why whereas no reason this time whatsoever.

[lanbro]

Happened to me last week, person had offered, I hadn't asked, dc beyond excited and counting down the days. Last minute cancellation because they needed some me time. Disappointing especially as I had helped out plenty previously due to person being let down by others themself!

[IDoDaChaCha]

Ah OP sounds like they're just unreliable. Can't stand people like that. I empathise.

[IDoDaChaCha]

lanbro shitty thing for them to do.

[goldensyrupisshit]

Ianbro that's really shitty fortunately this isn't really kiddie related as such as one appointment is for a wax which is why I'm so fucked off as I've been going down the yeti root now for almost 4 weeks and if I cannot find an alternative sitter I'll be having to shave as we're away soon

[IDoDaChaCha]

OP can you get a mobile beautician to come to your house to do a wax?

[goldensyrupisshit]

IDo it's being done by a relative as a treat
and that's the only time they can fit me in I'd feel bad cancelling as they could've had a paying customer instead. But I may have to look into booking myself into a salon when Mrgolden is free.

[blueshoes]

That is why I don't like to rely on favours. Your relative should have kept to their word, but if they did not and cancelled at the last minute, there isn't much you can do but fume. Some people are just lax with their word. I have to say I don't often gell with such people.

I prefer to pay for professional services that I can manage in a transactional manner. Or rely on a few people who I know can be trusted.

[IDoDaChaCha]

Aagh, OP double annoying you now feel bad letting your relative down.

[goldensyrupisshit]

Still trying to sort it as I detest letting people down and what's worse is I'd offered to pay in the first place when offered and she refused so I've been out and bought her favourite perfume as a thank you. Never rains but it pours

[IDoDaChaCha]

Aww OP that's nice. Always cringe trying to explain something like that as it sounds like bs but it's genuinely what happened. Hope relative is understanding. And you get your yeti sorted

[GinisLife]

There's too many people in this (entitled) world who think it's OK to just change their mind about an arrangement made. They seem to think their time or life is far more important than yours and so can let you down at no notice without a care in the world. They agree to invites to weddings etc and then just don't turn up. They don't know the meaning of the word commitment. Makes me sooooo cross

[goldensyrupisshit]

IDo honestly this heat is killing me I'll have to get something sorted may have to push Mrgolden to take the day off so more cost to us for a freebie but I'd rather that than let anyone down. It's the Domino effect that pisses me off as I don't want to carry it on. I'm the sort of person that's always early hate lateness, I'll do anything for anyone except this person who's just been rather twatty. We live and learn I guess.

[goldensyrupisshit]

Gin you are so right we live in a self centred world and I'm feeling a tad silly at my selfishness at being let down and I'm hell bent on not letting others down.

[IDoDaChaCha]

Gin I know someone like this. She couldn't give a toss about letting anyone down. Completely self centred.

[IDoDaChaCha]

OP I'm always early too. Just easier than risking being late!

[goldensyrupisshit]

Got one appointment sorted so no more yetti

[IDoDaChaCha]

Ha, good stuff

[FallingOrbit]

Umm...

In principle you're right, a person is only as good as their word etc etc and in an ideal world that's how it would be. But that's not where we live. We live in a world where shit happens.

I'd try to find out the reason for the sudden cancellation/dropping you in it - there may well be a damn good one. If, on the other hand it turns out there isn't a jolly good reason, then you're not unreasonable to be annoyed.

[goldensyrupisshit]

Falling I've heard second hand that it's because she wants to take her kids to the fair
Never mind I've managed at short notice to jiggle things around so that I'm not letting anyone down but I will never take this persons offer of a hand ever again as they just are not reliable which in turn unfortunately means I will no longer be going out of my way for her either.

[IDoDaChaCha]

OP if that's true she's a shitbag indeed.

[goldensyrupisshit]

IDo I agree I'm not as pissed off as I was but I'm sure she'll need me before I need her then I'll have two options be a cunt back or just say no from the off

[IDoDaChaCha]

OP glad coming here to vent helped (sometimes it can backfire turning into a horrible pile-on, as referenced by a thread deleted by MNHQ this am...). I'd say no from the off. And I'd think she was a cheeky mare to ask in the first place, but some people are that cheeky...