I feel pregnant last year and I am now a single mum of a beautiful 4 month baby boy.
The dad/sperm donor I had been seeing on and off for three years and the first conversation about my pregnancy he stated that there was no way him and his mother were supporting me to keep the baby, so that was that.
I have been accused of every cliche under the sun wether it be for money, for marriage , it's not even his etc etc, being screamed down on the phone to his mum trying to force me to get an abortion . I stayed away during my pregnancy apart from when I knocked on their home at 8 months pregnant asking if he was going to be on my sons birth certificate, his mum answered and basically told me I was selfish for not having an abortion.
My son is nearly 5 months old now and I have requested child maintence , he denied being his dad but after a lot of pushing and shoving he finally took the DNA test and surprise surprise it was his. He has still not paid any maintenance to date and last night I went over there to sort it out as he has ignored all payments ordered so far.
I was met by his brother who was nice enough, his dad all but ran away from the door so avoid seeing his own grandson. But basically pied me off saying that my sons Dad and his mum were not home and wouldn't be that day ( complete bollocks)
I'm actually try to the least vindictive I can be as I know a deduction of earnings will cost 20% more and I don't want to purposely disadvantage anyone.
But I'm feeling really bitchy now, I cannot understand how people can turn their own back on their grandchild or child. If the shoe was on the other foot my parents would never let me run away from this responsibility.
AIBU to do one of these things?
- Or a congratulations message in the dads parish council newsletter, saying congratulations on the birth of his first son. The town is very small and everyone knows each other so there would be a lot of embarrassment and talk here
- Send a bunch of congratulations it's a boy balloon bunch to his work (also my work but I had kept the father discreet the passed year but when I return from mat leave I won't be any longer ) also embarrassing as his colleagues don't know that he's knocked someone up.
I've tried being the bigger person but I cannot any longer, they will eventually hurt my son when he realises his paternal side wanted nothing to do with him. And to add insult to injury he has a cousin five days younger than him that his brothers that they adore. Do I sound pyscho for doing the suggested?