My 11 year old ds came out of school yesterday saying he'd had a really bad day. When asked why he said he had been basically beaten up at playtime by two other boys the same age. He hadnt retaliated but said he had used a blocking technique taught to him from his after school martial arts class. He's shown me the move and it doesn't cause harm to others or himself. I asked him to tell me exactly what happened and there had been a disagreement and then these two boys had started pushing him and then punching him. He said it's ok mum they have been given red cards so can't play out tommorrow.
So as I was picking him up early anyway for an appointment I knew the headteacher was currently in reception so I nipped back in and asked her what had happened. I told her that my ds was upset that he'd had a bad day and has just told me he had been beaten up by two other pupils. I understood it had been dealt with already but as this is the first time anything like this has happened especially punching him with two students on one I was quite upset I hadn't been phoned about it.
The headteacher turned to my ds and said "that's a bit of an exaggeration saying you've been beaten up"
He said "ok not beaten up but they had both punched me and pushed me"
She said "but pushing and punching someone is a different to being beaten up"
From a child's perspective and also finding words to describe his day and what has happened to him surely this was the correct term and if he feels that it's what has happened to him at the time she shouldn't be questioning the way he's describe the incident. I don't know I was just shocked that she came across as saying that punching and pushing someone especially 2 on 1 was any different to being beaten up. He's not a violent or confrontational child whatsoever and from the sounds of things he was trying to calm a situation from his friend getting bullied. At the risk of being flamed for being over sensitive or something could I just have your opinions on this and thoughts please? I just hate that his turn of events seem to have been downplayed and because he hasn't come out with two black eyes that he feels what happened wasn't serious enough to be upset over. I hate to think what has been said to him after it happened he said he was very very upset and crying.
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To think this shouldn't have been played down by the teacher?
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diyno1elsewill · 23/05/2017 09:42
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