Money is a big issue for a lot of couples. My DH is self - employed & the nature of his job means he doesn't always have a regular income. Unfortunately we have had to borrow a great deal of money from my parents & we have loans too. I have always tried to be positive & upbeat & would never criticise him ( the only thing I have done recently is to suggest looking through the finances to see if we can make any savings anywhere). It has been a big bone of contention that I don't have a job. I worked part time last summer & it was good for my self esteem as well as for not having to ask my DH for money. Before I got this job, he used to always bring it up in arguments that I wasn't contributing. As I have said in various posts, we are working through some problems & he had stopped doing that as it really upset me. However, things are very tight again & he said that the main issue is that we only have one income. He didn't say it nastily like before or in an argument but I could do without hearing it. I asked him to be more supportive but he replied that he didn't really know what to say. He knows I am jobhunting & trying my best. If the situation was reversed, I would try not to state the obvious! Maybe I am being too sensitive? It's a big male pride thing too & understandably he hates having to ask my folks to bail us out. Again as I have previously posted, our relationship is improving all the time but I need to feel we are together on this
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tigercub50 · 24/04/2017 11:47
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