Sorry - this is a rant 😩 My mum is always saying things like "isn't so and so such a good mum, look at her house and how clean the kids are" or "you really should make an effort to keep the house nicer" or "you missed a bit on the hob" "bath could do with a wipe" etc
My house isn't spotless, but it's passable. These comments are usually on a day I'm doing her dinner and she won't look after the kids so I am usually frantic trying to cook a roast and look after the baby and keep things as clean as possible as I go along. I'm 7 months pregnant.
The people she compares me to have all got massive support networks, their parents and siblings have the kids a few nights a week, and even when we were kids we lived at my grandparents at the weekend so she had loads of time to do whatever she did. We even had our own rooms there. She won't look after the kids for even 5 minutes, she just sits looking at her phone or asking me when dinner is going to be ready while the baby pulls out all the dvds or tries to yank the table cloth off the table. If she spills a drink she won't tell me or make any effort to mop it up, she refuses to take her shoes off indoors so she always drags mud through the house and I have a massive black mark all down my hall where she once dragged a shopping bag along the wall. She once spilled calpol on my cream carpet and left it there so it went all sticky and horrible and now won't come out and is always bringing me bags of junk she is throwing out then moaning that we have too much stuff.
I just feel like I am constantly being held up to some impossible ideal and criticised for not being spotlessly clean when she comes over and makes more mess then moans about all the things I haven't done, and offers literally no help whatsoever. She often makes it harder because I have to make her cups of tea and then watch that she hasn't left it within the baby's reach. If I asked her to spend some time with the kids at the park, she'd say she was too tired or if I asked her to hold the baby he'd be back on the floor in about 30 seconds.
WIBU to just tell her to stfu?
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My mum is always criticising my housework
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user1487941567 · 22/04/2017 11:08
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