Long story I apologise in advance
- DH has taken DC's 1,2 and 4 camping for long weekend, DC 3 and me stay home due to some specific medical needs she has - we said we would do some nice things together anyway.
We're relatively new to this area and we're all starting to make a few friends, my daughter who is seven especially enjoys playing with the little girl across the street who is about her age too.
Yesterday her mum asked where my usual stampede of children was (she's an older mum with just one DC, and she's made a few comments in the past about how many children we have, I just let it slide as I'm happy!) I was explaining to her they were away with dad and she suggests that we take ourselves and our girls out for a nice girly dinner...I readily agreed! Sounded fabulous.
My kids are by no means Angels (this is the understatement of the century, sometimes they're the epitome of why some species eat their own young, especially the teenagers!) so I'm pretty laid back when it comes to behaviour management.
However, we're sitting in this lovely local Italian restaurant, and DDs friend is playing on her mums phone and completely ignoring DD...this isn't something we've ever allowed, we believe that phones at the table are a no-no but each to their own, food arrived and we all began eating, except friend, who is still on phone. This was beginning to irritate me a bit but wasn't my place so didn't say anything. After about ten minutes other mum asked
'Darling, put the phone away now and eat your pizza' to which this angelic, lovely little 7 year old
replied
'you can shove your pizza up your arse, I'm busy'
My daughter started to laugh and I told her that it's not funny we don't speak to adults that way, then realised other mum was laughing at her daughter - when I said this she turned to me and accused me of trying to 'parent her daughter' and maybe I should stick to my own 'over-populated crowd of children'. I have 4 by the way, I wouldn't refer to them as a crowd.
Cue awkward silence for rest of meal, when we left I politely thanked other mum and child and we left - when DH and rest of 'crowd' returned last night I mentioned to him that I'm now not fond of neighbours child and don't think DD should be spending too much time with her and he says I'm being precious!!! Am I????
I was a bit taken aback that he wasn't more outraged by this, I've said I would never choose my children's friends for them, but if this is the way this little girl usually speaks to her parents and her parents are fine with that, that's not how we're bringing up our kids!!
Am I really the unreasonable one here, I feel like DH would have reacted differently were he there, and I despair the day DD says something like that to him! What would you do in this situation???
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