Skip to main content
Skip to main navigation
Skip to talk navigation

Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Saved Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Flip

1 2 3

AIBU?

Todo an advanced search on a username

73 replies

ohtheshameshameshame · 10/04/2017 22:11

When they write something I perceive to be unhelpful or nasty? Then I stalk through read all their previous comments / threads and like some shite MN detective try to work out if they actually are an arsehole or just having a bad day.

I'm pretty sure this is unreasonable but I can't help it. I'm a stalker aren't I ? I think I need to ditch this MN!

OP posts:

Report

ethelfleda · 10/04/2017 22:13

That's bloody awful! You can't do that!!
i do this sometimes too

freeDeirdreRachid · 10/04/2017 22:14

I think it's fine to do that but almost shitty behaviour to bring it up on the thread. Unless the previous posts relate to it.

JamesDelaneysHat · 10/04/2017 22:15

I'd guess most people on here have done it at least once constantly You stalky stalker you! What's not on is to then bring it up on another thread to the person you've advanced searched stalked.

ethelfleda · 10/04/2017 22:15

I agree with pp - I would never bring it up on a thread.

HecateAntaia · 10/04/2017 22:16

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GinSwigmore · 10/04/2017 22:19

I thought everyone did that! Only considered Bad Form if you then drag onto the current or even currant bun fight, what you learnt from your stalking. might have been quite rightly called out on that once But advance search also stops you investing in a thread when your trolldar goes and the userplusnumbersgalore has only one post to their trip trap name.

ohtheshameshameshame · 10/04/2017 22:20

Oh I wouldn't have the balls to bring anything up! I'm a lurker not a fighter. I just sit at the cheeky comments. Totally over invested! On the plus side MN has cured my FB addiction. I have progressed to stalking interacting with strangers instead of people I know.

OP posts:

ethelfleda · 10/04/2017 22:24

Haha - I'm with you on the not having the balls thing. I don't put my opinion on debates a lot of the time because I'm actually scared worried about the backlash!

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 10/04/2017 22:26

Love a bit of AS.

Rainydayspending · 10/04/2017 22:27

I am impressed you have the time in your life. You must be more organised than I.

boringbetty · 10/04/2017 22:28

How do you advanced search? Curious

zzzzz · 10/04/2017 22:31

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MaisyPops · 10/04/2017 22:32

Ive got no interest in doing it.Theres been a few threads where people have commented 'theres all these people who are just arseholes on other threads' etc. I dont pay any attention to user names to remember if somebody was also posting on AIBU and saying "yes" lots let alone trying to find out what else theyve commented kn etc.

But YANBU, you would if you brought it up on a thread though.

HecateAntaia · 10/04/2017 22:33

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ohtheshameshameshame · 10/04/2017 22:35

Well rainy if you've time to post then you've time to do a nosey

OP posts:

user1491774393 · 10/04/2017 22:36

I have done this on my previous mumsnet accounts. Only as a shill / troll spotter. I have since learned this is futile and pointless because you can spot them by their arsey know it all and inflammatory responses...

HarryPottersMagicWand · 10/04/2017 22:36

I honestly couldn't be bothered to go through someone's posts to see if they are usually an arsehole. I look if I suspect a troll or if it looks like someone I may know.

So2007 · 10/04/2017 22:39

Yeah me too. I've done this a few times, usually to check if it's a troll. Usually I find out it's just a person seemingly unhappy with life.

abcBears · 10/04/2017 22:40

I do it sometimes when the posters are so outrageous that they can't be real. Sadly, in most cases, they seem to have hundreds of posts under their name, which is puzzling. I don't bother reading the threads, I just look at the summary page.

AlpacaLypse · 10/04/2017 22:40

I do it if it's a username I'm not familiar with asking a question that might be Daily Mail click bait. Eg 'how often do you have oral sex?' or similar.... :)

ohtheshameshameshame · 10/04/2017 22:41

How do people so confidently identify trolls? I've seen it a few times, what does one look for when hunting trolls?

OP posts:

cherish123 · 10/04/2017 22:41

Sounds like you have an empty life.

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Email address

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

SeaEagleFeather · 10/04/2017 22:44

I really don't get why it's so bad to bring up posts on other threads.

Not for minor inconsistencies (people change small details for privacy and I've shortcutted myself by only putting the essence of a situation in before now) but for the really big ones where someone's pattern of behaviour is off.

People invest time and effort into Mumsnet Relationships and Chat. Some less-than-well-adjusted people take the piss. I really can't see what's wrong with summarizing the overall pattern of someone's posts, no matter where they post it.

klondikecookie · 10/04/2017 22:45

I did it after a recent thread when the OP was outraged that some people eat dog. After about 6 pages of being told she was unreasonable, she announced she was a vegan.

Didn't believe her, and sure enough she had previous posts about her eating meat and stressing the importance of finding a good butcher.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 10/04/2017 22:46

I've only brought it on to another thread when it is clear the op is lying. Once when someone was offering advice as a HCP and yet on another thread had said they were about to start training as a HCP. It worried me that someone was pretending to be qualified to offer medical advice.

Flip

1 2 3

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.