DD1 is in reception. She is the youngest in her class and fairly anxious. She enjoys school and by all accounts she is coping well and making progress. She has lots of little friends that she went to playgroup with in her class.
Recently though she has been coming home and reporting that one of the girls in her class is behaving badly towards her. For example, pushing DD over in the playground when she doesn't want to play, and excluding DD from playground games that involve DD's other friends; leaving her with no one to play with.
Last week my daughter came home and told me that the other girl had "fighted" her, she demonstrated nudging each other with elbows. She said the TA had seen and told the girl to stop it. I didn't think too much more of it.
Today, DD told me that this little girl had pulled her hair at home time and blamed it on another child.
I know that this child is quite dominant and have observed her "manhandling" DD at parties, albeit not in an intentionally nasty way. She took an instant shine to DD when starting school and her mother told me that she talks about DD a lot at home. The problem is that DD finds the girl's dominant nature difficult and doesn't enjoy being "babied". She has started tentatively trying to be more assertive (I have discussed this with her and modeled what to say when she doesn't want to play).
Until now, I have been of the view that managing these situations is all part of growing up and DD needs to learn to deal with it. However, my advice to DD seems to have backfired on her, as the girl now seems to be treating her quite badly.
I asked DD today if she had told a grown up about what happened at home time, but she told me that they are "not allowed to tell tales at school". I asked her if she would like me to speak to her teacher but she became quite anxious about "telling tales".
So I feel that I need to raise my concerns about the relationship between DD and the other little girl, but also about DD not feeling that she can tell an adult.
My head is telling me that kids will be kids and this is likely to just blow over in a few weeks. I also understand through experience that teachers of primary aged children do get plagued with non-issues and the temptation to use the "don't tell tales" line. But on the other hand, the thought of my 4 year old child possibly being targeted, but feeling unable to seek help just breaks my heart!
AIBU to seek a meeting with the class teacher? And if I do, how do I broach it?
(So as not to drip feed, the teacher is fantastic, but can be a little "bristly" when she perceives she is being challenged).
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AIBU?
To raise this at parents evening, and if not, how?
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PugwallsSummer · 07/03/2017 21:14
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