New poster so sorry if I get the etiquitte wrong.
I know I'm being a tad unreasonable but I am so angry right now.
I've seen enough posts so will try not to drip feed but apologies for the long post.
Met DP through a mutul freind approx 3 years ago just after he split from the mother of his 2 DD (never married but together for 15 years and split was instigated ber her but mutual) through a mutual freind and we became friends.
Met DPx a number of times and everything was always fine, I did feel she was taking DP for a bit of a financial ride but certainatly at the time and still kind of none of my business.
Through both her financial drain (she earns a very good salary btw) and a rouge (knob) business partner he lost his business and therefore income.
I have supported him financially ever since. This has at times put a massive strain on our relationship but he is working hard to rebuild the business on his own. He is currently working away from home as a self employed painter and decoratoer to earn extra money whilst he tries to rebuild his business and has a big job through a friend which was agreed at £xx amount to be paid at £xx amount per month.
We have recently moved to a new house (rented) and i agreed to pay the normal first months rent and deposit myself on the understanding he was to pay me his share today. He has just told me that he is not getting paid at the times we had thought and this means he can now not give me his share of the first months rent and deposit.
Technically I can afford to go without this money, though it would make things very tight.
This is not the first time this sort of thing has happened and I get he really wants to get his business back of the ground so that he can provide for his 2 DD and us and he does work hard but I am sick of him letting me down with money because he's not been paid (he's currently owed a fair bit) and I have to constantly find the money from somewhere.
Tonight he was supposed o fly home tomorrow (I have paid for his flight just in case his money didnt get paid on time) and he has just told me he is only getting about 20% of the agreed for the work he has already done. The rest will be paid upon completion of the job but this isn't what was agreed.
I have asked hin several times to just get a "normal job" with a guarenteed regular income whilst he builds his business back up to which he agees at the time but then never does do.
AIBU to expect him to just sod of this self employed bollocks and get a regular paid job for now so that I know what income we have to pay the bills each month whilst he builds his business back up.
Just so pissed at being told "I've got this money this week/month coming in" for at the last minute it not to be so.
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To think DP needs to sort his own life out
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Wineismyfreind · 06/03/2017 23:24
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