My DS turned 7 a couple of months ago and is in 1st class (not sure what that is in UK - its his 3rd year in school). I have 2 other kids one a year below and one 2 years ahead. Both youngest and eldest are bright kids, do very well in school, manage work easily and never get into trouble. The middle kid my DS7 is very bright (this isn't a stealth boost honestly). We have always been told since he was very young that he is very smart. He isn't at the level of gifted or anything but I suppose its like a step above being top of the class if that makes sense.
At his parent teacher meetings the teachers tell me he is extremely intelligent, exceptionally bright, miles ahead of the other kids, etc. He can easily do the school work of my DD 2 years ahead, they are reading the same books, he knows all her spellings etc etc
He picks things up very easily, has a great memory, and unlike my other two who are content to learn at an easy going pace, he craves information. He is really good at maths eg his class are learning addition and subtraction tables and he is on multiplication and division, knows all fractions, percentages, measurements ...
Here is the problem, his current teacher, whilst lovely, seems to be just ignoring DS. I totally appreciate that he has a big class and his priority will be the kids who are struggling. I have a nephew who I am very close to and he is struggling in school, gets extra resources, is in a special class so I know the pain and upset of having kids on the other end.
DS is refusing to do addition and subtraction tables with the rest of the class as they are "too easy" for him, his teacher accepts this so now DS does no tables in school and I do the M&D with him at home. The spellings are too easy so now he does little to no spellings with him. He is reading a few years ahead of his age and thankfully his teacher lets him pick his own books but unfortunately DS doesn't really enjoy reading (hoping its only temporary as I love it).
His behaviour was raised as an issue at the PT meeting. His teacher said he can be a bit cheeky, but not in a bad way, he just thinks he shouldn't have to do work that is too easy for him. Teacher said he thinks he is an adult and wants to control everything - all true. When the teacher is on the computer DS goes up to his desk and wants to know what files he is looking at, where they are saved, what files he has in Word, how to do this that and the other - he askes a million questions about everything. He loves going onto my computer and creating files, he will take pictures from the picture album, and create collages with headers, set up his own folders, he has programmed the tv, set up the chrome cast with the TV, downloaded movies, etc He built a 16 years + 1500 piece lego set by himself when he was 5.5yrs. I got him the Millennium Falcon Star Wars lego (8-16yr) for Christmas to keep him occupied and he built it in about 2-3 hrs.
He has been getting in trouble in school a fair bit recently for messing, getting up and walking around the classroom, rolling his pencil around the table. When I asked him about it he said he is finished all his work and has to wait for the others to finish and he has nothing to do. I have a suduko book in his bag for times like this and the teacher is supposed to have sheets of work in an early finisher box but often runs out. The problem is that he is now bored with doing these.
I knew this problem was going to arise but I thought id get another year or two before it did. I know I should talk to the teacher but its very hard to not sound like I'm bragging and I think my child is a genius that deserves special treatment. I don't even know what I expect the teacher to do, I fully appreciate he has 20 + other kids to worry about. I suppose my best way to approach it is from the point of view of him getting in trouble and being disruptive, but I worry the teacher may not agree with me and think maybe he is just being bold.
The is an irish school in the next town, where everything is taught through Irish and DH is seriously considering sending him there as a way to challenge him for the next while. Though he is picking up the language at a fast rate so I don't know how long that will work.
I would really love any advice on what to do, AIBU to expect the school to try and do something for him in terms of challenging him more. I genuinely worry about his behaviour going downhill. In the last week I have had a note him as he got 4 warnings in the one day and yesterday he got 2 warning so he had to go to the staffroom. The school is great in ways but its a very easy going country school with an "ah sure it will be grand" attitude!
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Lima1 · 08/02/2017 11:36
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