DH's birthday is coming up and he is working the day before which involves him being away from home (within the UK) and will not finish work till late evening. When I realised this, I commented "oh so you won't be at home on your birthday." To which he rather curtly said something like "yes I will. I might come back the same day." It is a situation where he would always stay overnight at the work location, so I was not unreasonable to assume he would be doing the same this time (I don't think!), and I didn't think he'd want to travel back late at night arriving home in the early hours.
Last night I broached the topic again and said when do you think you'll be back (thinking of what plans we can make to celebrate) and he immediately got annoyed and said he didn't know what time, but some point on his birthday. So he IS planning to stay over as he usually would.
When I showed surprise and said he had initially suggested he might come back on the day of the work thing, he got really angry, started shouting at me and saying he never said he would come home the same day, that I was lying to suggest it, I must have misunderstood etc. I stuck to my guns as I felt he was undermining me to say it was my error, when I clearly remember him saying he might come back the same day (because I remember how surprised I was at that idea). He then stood up, threw the TV remote at me (more towards me than at me), told me to F off and stormed off ranting that I am a f-ing arehole sometimes. It just seemed a massive overreaction and I have no idea where it came from or why he felt the need to be so rude or angry towards me.
I am a SAHM and feel like I do everything around here for him and the kids, and am so tempted to go on strike and not cook him a lovely home cooked meal from scratch this evening as I do every evening. Just don't appreciate being sworn at and called an arehole for something so trivial.
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brexitschmexit · 07/02/2017 09:55
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