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AIBU?

To be pissed off?

41 replies

user1470064958 · 05/02/2017 19:49

Had some friends come over last night for dinner. 4 ladies in total moved into the lounge after dinner for a chat, topics were the usual bar some baby chat as two of us are new mothers. Mid conversation one of the group pulled out her phone and started browsing the internet as we were obviously boring her.

Am I dramatic for thinking that's really rude and antisocial?

And it wasn't a quick check which is fine of course!

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Katnisnevergreen · 05/02/2017 19:51

Idk, baby talk if you don't have a baby is dull as anything. Had you been talking about this topic all night?
Maybe she was bored or felt excluded, new mums can be a little self and baby obsessed to those that don't have kids yet.
Maybe she is trying for a baby unsuccessfully and the talk upset her?
Lots of options really

LynetteScavo · 05/02/2017 19:52

Why didn't she go home if she was bored?

I went to a baby shower where the expectant mum spent most of her time on her phone. Luckily her DM was hosting, and had much better manners.

Crunchymum · 05/02/2017 19:52

I assume it was mid baby conversation and the one with the phone is childless?

Mrsglitterfairy · 05/02/2017 19:54

To be honest, I don't blame her. If she doesn't have kids and you're all talking about babies, she was probably bored to tears

IateallthePies654 · 05/02/2017 19:55

If she's a friend I would have just asked if she was ok or tell her in a jokey way to put her phone away and attempted to include her in conversation.

AllTheLight · 05/02/2017 19:56

YANBU. How rude!

Baffledonthisone · 05/02/2017 19:57

She might have a mobile addiction.

Katnisnevergreen · 05/02/2017 19:58

Was there any attempt to change the subject from her prior to the phone usage? Had she been ignored before this?

Emmastone123 · 05/02/2017 20:01

YANBU.

Even if she was bored by the conversation topic, you don't take your phone out and start browsing. It's extremely rude.

LexieLulu · 05/02/2017 20:04

To be fair, baby talk does bore some people. I have children (one of which is a baby) and detest baby talk, labour talk, pregnancy talk.

RainbowsAndUnicorn · 05/02/2017 20:05

New mums can be utterly boring and she likely felt excluded as well. You could have kept babies off the agenda for the night so that all could enjoy.

Waltermittythesequel · 05/02/2017 20:07

I don't blame her!

Other people's baby talk bores me to tears.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 05/02/2017 20:11

If she's childless then I don't blame her, actually tbf I have two DC but babytalk bores the fuck out of me...

Mottlemoth · 05/02/2017 20:27

Talking about babies is really fucking boring. Did you make any effort to include her in the conversation?

IDontLoveGlitterGlitterLovesMe · 05/02/2017 20:47

Is she a parent?
Had the parents been discussing their children for the majority of the time?

pipsqueak25 · 05/02/2017 20:50

another who agrees that baby [and child talk for me at least] bores me rigid after the first ten minutes, but anyone messing about on a phone is a rude imo in these situations.

elspethmcgillicuddy · 05/02/2017 20:55

Is it possible she is having fertility issues? If that was the case then lots of baby talk might have been really hard to hear so she may have needed to tune out for a few mins.

bloodyteenagers · 05/02/2017 20:55

Baby talk bores me rigid. Nothing to do with being childless. I have children. But I also have other interests. I go out to escape kids.

tiredofhavingtothinkofnewnames · 05/02/2017 20:57

Where were the men- did they go the smoking/snooker room?

BackforGood · 05/02/2017 20:57

YANBU it was rude. Only reason to get your phone out in such circumstances are a quick check to see if youve had a text (from dc home alone or babysitter or others you may be carer for) or to use the internet to solve a problem / debate you are having amongst you.

SaucyJack · 05/02/2017 21:04

It's a bit PA to make a point of taking your phone out, but as I wasn't there I can't say whether she was justified in feeling miffed off with the conversation.

Were all four of you involved in talking to each other about mutual interests, or was it just one or two of you shouting pissed nonsense at each other?

user892 · 05/02/2017 21:17

How many minutes was she on her phone for? I don't mind people having a quick check of their emails etc if we're in a group. Any longer than 5 mins and I'd be tempted to lean over to see what she's up to!

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HarryPottersMagicWand · 05/02/2017 21:35

YANBU. But given some of the replies, it's obviously not unusual. I'd be really pissed off if someone I was with did this but there are quite clearly a lot of rude twats about. Should we all pull our phones out when the conversation doesn't suit us?

Snap8TheCat · 05/02/2017 21:36

Is it as rude as an OP not coming back?

meltownmary · 05/02/2017 21:37

That's you told OP.

But it's the clique wot dun it lol.

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