I've had a simpering, aggravating email from Ex's wife. Apparently he's devastated and heartbroken that our two girls aren't going to his birthday party.
Her final line is that she just can't understand why they'd chose a wedding on my DH's side ("someone who is not even a relation to them") over his party.
It's thoroughly fucking tempting to point out that DH's side, the non relatives, have included the girls in their lives. They haven't not-yet delivered their Christmas presents because they've been 'busy'. They've not dropped and picked up the girls whenever it fucking suited them.
And she's no better. Apparently he's 'saddened' at how little he sees them and she's 'terribly sad' that their half siblings barely know them. Well given that she refused to learn how to use DD2's epi-pen and also refused to allow DD2 in their house without an adult who knew how to use it that meant that the girls can/could only visit when ex had the entire weekend off. Sometimes he had to do a guard duty for 6 hours or whatever which meant the entire contact had to be cancelled. To put into context DD2 has used her epi-pen twice in 6 years... So not like she was being asked to do extensive medical care, just to know how it worked (the twice it's been used it was DD1 who did it).
There's also the fact that when ex-MIL was in hospital the girls were uninvited to their Ds's christening because they couldn't possibly ask her family to keep an eye on the girls (who were 12!) in the chapel and they'd be up at the font. So that was another whole weekend cancelled.
Who invites their own 13yos to their birthday party by an invitation in the post anyway? I mean really? This party is in 3 weeks and this is the first they've heard of it. They weren't invited to her 40th or their half-brother's 1st birthday party in early January.
I won't say anything because DD1 has an awards thing next week and ex has promised he'll be there and will bring their Christmas presents (he insisted on buying the one thing they really, really wanted). I'm not risking him blaming me for the no show. Although I'm half thinking he might cancel for being "too upset" or some such bollocks.
It thoroughly tempting though.
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lalalalyra · 27/01/2017 09:10
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