I am very close to my niece, always have been. She's 18yo and suffers from anxiety (GAD), which seems to be getting progressively worse as time goes on, and some days she's unable to leave the house. She has great support in family members and me and DH have always been there for her when she needs us.
My DSis has today put a picture on facebook effectively 'shaming' DN for her messy room. It's just a picture of her room, and it is a tip, she's done a big long rant about how she's sick of asking her kids to tidy their rooms and she feels this is her last resort - she's tagged DN saying the picture will only come down once her room is tidy.
The thing is, if DSis and BIL (DN's stepdad) were tidy people and kept an orderly house, I'd understand. But the rest of the house is the same as DN's room. DSis (and for as long as I've known him, BIL) has always been the same, crap everywhere, like something out of Kim and Aggie's show. Piles and piles of rubbish stuffed in corners, empty boxes on kitchen worktops there for weeks, piles of washed clothes shoved in random spaces. We stayed over once to babysit their toddler and were meant to be sleeping in their bed. It was unmade and had about 20 toys on top of it, there was no room in their room to put them (as was also a tip) so they went in the hallway. The dogs sleep in that bed and we had to change the sheets that night due to the amount of dog hair in the bed (it aggravates DH's asthma). One time there were several pairs of period stained knickers on show on the landing next to the wash basket (which is always over spilling so the family just chuck things on the floor beside it). We've actually stopped going because I got sick of having to haul things off the sofa just to have a sit down, we're not the most immaculate people in the world, we know what it's like having kids etc, but we are tidy and manage to at least make the bed and keep the sofa clear!
Anyway AIBU to think that if you live like this you cant expect your children to be super tidy? And AIBU to think that shaming someone on Facebook who already has anxiety issues is pretty low no mater how mad you are? I really want to say something but knowing DSis it will not go down well
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AIBU?
To think if you keep your home like a shit tip you can't complain your kids don't tidy their rooms?
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CherryChasingDotMuncher · 20/12/2016 16:30
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