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To not give presents to DC's teachers?

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SerialReJoiner Fri 16-Dec-16 17:58:11

Primary aged dc have lovely teachers. I don't want to offend, but it just honestly didn't occur to me to buy something for them. Should I get something? What??

I would honestly rather give them a nice card with a note saying how much I appreciate their hard work with my dc this year so far.

Allthewaves Fri 16-Dec-16 18:02:25

I hink a card with a thoughtful message is fine

ilovesooty Fri 16-Dec-16 18:02:40

I think that's fine and would be much appreciated.

00100001 Fri 16-Dec-16 18:03:22

the card will do.

if you get them a gift I'd avoid smellies and chocolates. vouchers would be best.

Our staff room is full of 'rejected' presents at the end of term for others to take home.

Joolsy Fri 16-Dec-16 18:04:50

I don't really understand why teachers get presents at Christmas, just for doing their job. I haven't bothered getting a present this year, we just gave a card. I work as a TA in a college and never get anything, but I wouldn't expect it either. I'm sure most teachers don't expect anything

wobblywonderwoman Fri 16-Dec-16 18:07:35

A nice card would be lovely. I would buy a small gift as a token or leave it and get something in July

Pilgit Fri 16-Dec-16 18:08:25

I don't either. I appreciate everything they do and they are brilliant! But we do a collection for vouchers at the end.of the year and I'd rather give to that so they get something meaningful. Also there's only.so many boxes of chocolate or smellies one person can use. DD usually does a picture or writes a letter.

Brightbluebells Fri 16-Dec-16 18:09:25

I have been a teacher for 20 years. I never expect presents. If I get a few, then I am grateful but I would hate to think that any parent or child would be worrying about not getting one. I do always love receiving a message, either at Christmas, or any other time which makes me feel like I am doing a worthwhile job.

Don't worry or overthink it; just do what suits you. I promise you that teachers do not judge parents on presents. I do judge whether parents smile at me when I smile at them but that could just be me!

SerialReJoiner Fri 16-Dec-16 18:09:49

They really have achieved a lot with my 6yo DD especially this year, so I'll do a card and note. Good idea to leave off a gift til the end of school year. Less pressure a week before Christmas is always a good thing!

NickNacks Fri 16-Dec-16 18:09:57

Vouchers? hmm

MrsKCastle Fri 16-Dec-16 18:10:20

I would honestly rather give them a nice card with a note saying how much I appreciate their hard work with my dc this year so far.

Yes, this is absolutely perfect. A thoughtful, sincere comment will be remembered and appreciated.

I've had a tough time in teaching, left my old job for various reasons and was wondering whether to give it all up. Last summer, after being in my new school for a year I had several thank you cards where parents had told me how much impact they felt I'd had on their child's learning. Believe me, it meant so much to me.

DesolateWaist Fri 16-Dec-16 18:11:58

I'm a teacher and I can promise you that a card with a few nice words will mean so much more than a box of chocolates.

00100001 Fri 16-Dec-16 18:12:21

nick whats wrong with vouchers? confused

joolsy do you wonder the same about nurses?

00100001 Fri 16-Dec-16 18:12:50

we get biscuits and chocolates every year from the senior management... all we do is our jobs...

CwtchesAndCuddles Fri 16-Dec-16 18:14:10

My dc goes to a special school, there are 6 children in the class, one teacher and four TAs, they don't expect gifts and would say a card with a "thank you " is more than enough but they all go so far beyond just doing their job that I like to give them all something. This year it was home made mince pies hot from the oven and a bottle of wine each, class teacher also had a Starbucks voucher as she is amazing !
Due to the nature of the school parents tend to build up a close relationship with the staff and they do get a lot of gifts at Christmas and the end of the year!!!

dementedma Fri 16-Dec-16 18:14:53

I don't do teacher gifts and never have.

"I don't really understand why teachers get presents at Christmas, just for doing their job."

I used to be a nurse, and sometimes patients would buy some chocolates or biscuits for the nurses, when they were discharged. We didn't expect it - like the teachers, we were just doing our job, but it was nice to be appreciated.

I think pretty much everyone likes to feel appreciated, and teachers are no different - but that doesn't have to mean a present.

SerialReJoiner Fri 16-Dec-16 18:19:26

CwtchesAndCuddles sounds like a lovely school. smile

LeadPipe Fri 16-Dec-16 18:21:16

We always did class rep took a donation then bought vouchers and split it between the classroom teacher/TA.

chickenowner Fri 16-Dec-16 18:21:52

I'm a teacher...

A card with a nice message is absolutely fine, and I'm sure it will be appreciated. It's always touching when children write in the cards themselves too - although I'm an early years teacher so children in my class writing something is more of a big deal than for older children!

Mistoffelees Fri 16-Dec-16 18:23:17

I second the thoughtful note idea. It was our last day today and my favourite present was a hat a girl had made me from some left over wrapping paper and stickers.

MrsMattBomer Fri 16-Dec-16 18:24:23

I don't really understand why teachers get presents at Christmas, just for doing their job.

Because we are treated as babysitters, expected to break up fights, remember every single thing ever told to us about every child ever, expected to remember every strength and weakness, we're expected to give them all our undivided attention, we're expected to discipline them and praise them in equal measures. We also get shouted at, abused and insulted, by kids and parents, and god forbid if a student doesn't get an A* even if they're not capable of it or have shown no effort at all. Multiply all of this by 200 kids.

Do you not think all of that is worth a 3 quid box of chocolates?

NickNacks Fri 16-Dec-16 18:26:22

Vouchers are more expensive, at least £10. I think that's quite greedy.

LeadPipe Fri 16-Dec-16 18:32:29

Do you not think all of that is worth a 3 quid box of chocolates?

I certainly do! I was glad that the other parents felt the same and were able to give towards a nice monetary gift to the teachers. I always saw it like a small Christmas bonus as it was universal across the school at Christmas and end of year. I recognise that not everyone can afford to donate though.

MrsHathaway Fri 16-Dec-16 18:33:12

Nice card with note is lovely. Nice email cc the head teacher is good too.

DS2's class TA stopped me to thank me for what I'd written in her card this week.

I think most people in most professions would rather have a thoughtful note than a last-minute box of Roses, if it's either/or.

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