Hello
Just after some advice.
Background - My In Laws are obsessed with our nearly 7 month old baby (1st Grandchild) they never ask about me or my husband all they are interested in is our baby. I quickly realised I was an incubator for the grandchild - which is fine! They invite us to their house and if we have other plans they seem annoyed. We have very busy life's but always try and see them once or twice a month.
Since my baby was born they have visited our house on a few occasions maybe 2 times, once when my baby was born and then at a later date. They always expect us to go to their house which is about an hour and half drive. I'm exhausted, my baby doesn't sleep through the night and during the day she is a stickler for routine and naps. Without naps she is very grumpy. All of this is making these trips to the In laws difficult as our baby can't sleep at their house, the routine goes to pot and they are so full on with her at times it's too overwhelming for my baby and me. My baby likes being outside getting fresh air but the in laws just sit in doors all day so this makes my baby even more agitated and grumpy. I feel bad but visiting them is hard work.
Is it wrong that I feel they should be visiting us more at our house instead of us going to theirs? It's hard going out and about when your exhausted too. Do you think all they are interested in is seeing the baby and are not thinking about me and my husband and how exhausted we are making these trips to their house? They never seem interested in us. Surely it should be a 2 way effort. Perhaps we need to make more of an effort to invite them to our house but surely family should be able to call anytime and say "Are you free, we would like to come and see you".
Also any visits to the in laws need to be coordinated when ALL 6 of them are not working (MIL/FIL/BIL/3 x SIL) as they think it's not fair that some see the baby and others don't (especially the MIL) . Which is difficult as visits are very much when it suits them.
My husband works very long hours, sometimes night shifts and he agrees with me but is reluctant to say anything.
Any advice?
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user1480458852 · 29/11/2016 22:47
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