Hiya all, i have an odd situation here and want to know if I'm the one being weird about this.
I'm a single mum of a boy. My (soon to be ex) husband was arrested 2 yrs ago, the case is ongoing. I had mental health problems beforehand and they've gotten worse since our house was raided. My ex was emotionally and financially abusive, and controlled most of my life. I have anxiety and depression. I'm only mentioning this because I'm quite weird about my home, I hate the idea of anyone invading my personal space, especially without my knowledge.
I have a friend who has been my friend for nearly 20 years. I couldn't talk to him while I was with my ex, but we've recently become close again.
There was a spark there and we had amazing sex a few times, but overall he's mostly been an incredibly supportive friend and someone I can talk to. It's obvious though that despite trying, he doesn't understand my anxiety or depression.
Recently he's got a bit weird if I don't reply to texts. He texts me 4-5 times a day, and if I don't reply he will tell me to answer or he will come to my door, or that he has driven past my house and knows I'm in there, so why am I not replying? Or I tell him I've gone to bed, and he retorts that my lights are still on downstairs so I can't be.
My instincts tell me this is weird. At the very least, it makes me uncomfortable to know someone could be monitoring me in my own home- even though he's not threatening in any way, the idea of him knowing whether I'm at home or not gives me the creeps.
When I asked, he said that the occasions where he said that, he was in the area anyway and happened to notice my lights were on (no I do not live on a main road or anything- I live in a culdesac.)
AIBU to get creeped out by this?
If not, how do I tell a lifelong friend that he is being creepy?
If so, should I tell a healthcare provider about this odd feeling of not having autonomy in my own home?
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AIBU?
To think this is verging on creepy?
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CalamityPayne · 23/11/2016 23:45
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