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To be worried and think this is really not normal?

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FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname Sun 20-Nov-16 01:38:24

This may be a bit TMI but it's kind of embarrassing and I can't really discuss it in RL!

For the last 2/3 months I have been having severe pain during and after DTD, not every single time but almost.

Dp is....generously proportioned so there have always been times when it has been a little uncomfortable (certain positions etc) but lately it's so so much worse. Sometimes I just have to stop part way through because it's just so painful and then the pain takes ages (and painkillers) to ease off.

I'm starting to get really worried about it - tonight we had to stop as it was too much and after I was in tears. It feels like I'm being/have been stabbed in the uterus/lower abdomen. Hovering around 8 on the 'pain scale'.

I've been to the gp and had a smear, swabs and booked for an ultrasound next week. Swabs showed nothing, no infections etc. Awaiting results of smear test. Ultrasound clinic when booking the appt. made it clear that it was an urgent referral from gp.

Aibu to be worried or am I overreacting? I'm sure it's nothing serious but since the swabs ruled out infections and no issues with my IUD were mentioned all my mind keeps jumping to IS serious stuff. Has anyone else had similar issues that turned out to be easily resolved/ not serious? Need some hand holding confused

Datun Sun 20-Nov-16 01:43:06

The only thing that comes to mind is vaginismus? Not scary, you can google it.

But I wouldn't worry too much anyway. It's a complicated bit of kit!

FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname Sun 20-Nov-16 01:51:57

Definitely not that datun, it's a very 'deep' pain, mostly in my lower abdomen but radiates to my back, legs and up my torso as well as throughout my pelvic floor. Difficult to describe sad

AuroraBora Sun 20-Nov-16 02:00:07

Is it akin to period pains? Like that achy feeling and a bit of nausea to go with it?

I had period pain type pains during and after sex and it was a symptom of my endometriosis.

PerspicaciaTick Sun 20-Nov-16 02:01:08

Could it be endometriosis? Mine gives me that sort of deep pain.
Hopefully your referral and scan will get this sorted for you flowers.

CondensedMilkSarnies Sun 20-Nov-16 02:02:08

I was going to suggest endometriosis too. Hope you get it sorted x

ifcatscouldtalk Sun 20-Nov-16 02:02:13

Oh bless you that sounds awful. I am not a medic and am spectacular at worrying so I can't say I wouldn't be worried. You have done all the right things by getting this checked out. Sorry I can't say this has happened to me and all was fine as I haven't had this.Just wanted to offer some support.

PenguinsandPebbles Sun 20-Nov-16 02:03:54

You poor thing, how long have you been together, as you say the problem has only been a few months?

Is there any chance you could be pregnant? Things feel very different for me when I am, but I'm sure you must have ruled this out with your GP.

Only other thing I can think of is that now getting nervous of the anticipation of pain now and tensing up.

LucyBabs Sun 20-Nov-16 02:05:24

I had this after my dd was born. Sudden pain during and after sex like I was being stabbed!
Saw a gynae, had scans and was diagnosed with endometriosis.

FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname Sun 20-Nov-16 02:05:27

Yes it is kind of similar to that aurora, just a really intense version. Kind of similar to labour (I imagine) in that it seems to come in 'waves' rather than a constant level. The pain was so bad I did feel sick at one point.

Thanks for the responses, I can't sleep currently as it still hurts but at least I'm not jumping to conclusions about the big C so much now smile

LucyBabs Sun 20-Nov-16 02:09:32

I had a vaginal ultrasound (think that's what it's called) this helped properly diagnose the endometriosis

FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname Sun 20-Nov-16 02:09:51

Sorry penguin I didn't see your post, I haven't had a pregnancy test but I'm pretty sure I'm not since I have an IUD but it's not impossible I guess.

Dp and have been together over 3yrs but it's only the last few months we've had this problem. Feeling a bit reassured that a few others have had similar with a common cause so thank you all x

PenguinsandPebbles Sun 20-Nov-16 02:15:34

It may be worth just taking one to rule it out, as it's a quick and easy thing to do.

Endometriosis does sound like a possibility from what others have said, either way you had my sympathies it must be very upsetting for you.

CashelGirl Sun 20-Nov-16 02:44:43

I had this. It was (harmless) ovarian cysts and a tilted uterus. I had my IUD removed and although that didn't solve it immediately, it has gradually got better. All back to normal now. Was horrible though - I laid most of the blame on my Mirena.

MissVictoria Sun 20-Nov-16 03:14:57

Is it possible that you could be hitting your Cervix? I know a fair few women get deep abdomen pain from their Cervix being hit.

SlottedSpoon Sun 20-Nov-16 03:31:59

Ask to be looked at for endometriosis and adhesions. Do you ever get these stabbing pains at any other time or just during and after sex?

You can have a simple laparoscopy and they can snip at any adhesions to release them.

They can grow back over time though.

Goodfood1 Sun 20-Nov-16 03:55:28

I had stabbing pains but only during, when I has a cist. It was big, but not dangerous and I had it removed with no consequences.

sykadelic Sun 20-Nov-16 04:16:44

I just read you have an IUD, I'd get that removed. My SIL's (both of them) had a similar issue, though one worse than the other.

One was bleeding after sex (not a lot but enough) and sex was uncomfortable/painful. She went to get her IUD out and found out it had migrated and was digging in and sex caused the bleeding. Her BF isn't particularly generously proportioned but they do enjoy various interesting positions (the things I don't need to know).

The other one was having some pain during sex, her BF IS generously proportioned and it turns out her IUD was almost all the way out and was told it's lucky she hasn't gotten pregnant yet and it wouldn't have been effective for much longer.

You're probably also at the point where you're freaking yourself out more and more so you being tense in anticipation probably makes it worse.

FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname Sun 20-Nov-16 10:04:16

Slotted yes I do sometimes get period type pain randomly and unrelated to sex but it is 1000x worse during/after sex. I don't have periods at all anymore due to the IUD.

I'm still in pain now after almost 10hrs although it has died down a bit sad It even hurts to go to the loo, not painful to 'pass' anything just general stabby sort of pain in my pelvic floor/groin area. I'm pretty sure this is the worst it's been and we were v. careful dtd and it still happened angry

I quite like my mirena, no periods for years is great but if it's causing all this it will have to go!

2ndSopranos Sun 20-Nov-16 10:35:41

I'm currently being investigated for endometriosis and that's one of my symptoms: deep-seated period-type pain following dtd. Dh has been upset that he's hurting me but it's not him.

I have to go for a scan and potentially a laparoscopy. I've also had horrifically painful periods (think labour pain: I've given birth without any pain relief so I do have a high pain threshold...).

ToastyFingers Sun 20-Nov-16 10:45:07

This happened to me the whole time I had a mirena coil. It stopped pretty much immediately after it was removed.

FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname Sun 20-Nov-16 12:46:28

I've also always had really heavy and painful periods (up until I got the mirena).

Darn. Looks like I might have to have it out sad

I don't want to take the pill again!! *cries

sykadelic Sun 20-Nov-16 16:14:39

Oh yes you reminded me, the first SIL had pain without sex as well. It started to get worse and worse. You know started off pretty mild so she thought they'd just been a bit too rough but it progressively got worse and stay longer and longer after sex. She said her "period" hadn't gone away in a while (she too hadn't had one for about 3 years) and it turned out to just be bleeding, not a period at all sad

Really hope you find a solution!

sykadelic Sun 20-Nov-16 16:15:14

and if it helps, they were both back to normal pretty quickly with no pain etc so silver lining and all that!

sunshineintheclouds Sun 20-Nov-16 16:17:40

Sorry if already been said but you might won't to have a full Sti check. Just to rule anything out.

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