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What should year 7 and 8 boys be doing after school?

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plastique Mon 17-Oct-16 16:26:47

I haven't a clue what my boy's aged 11 and 12 should/could be doing after school!! They get home at 3.30, my 11yr old puts on pjs straight away but bedtimes at 9.... Seems to be tv, ps4, iPad etc.... Seems such a waste of their time/life or AIBU!!??

CruCru Mon 17-Oct-16 16:31:38

At that age I was learning an instrument so had music practice. Plus homework.

A bit of downtime won't hurt them. I definitely played computer games.

myownprivateidaho Mon 17-Oct-16 16:37:58

That's a lot of time!! Some screen time if fine/normal but 5 hour a day is a but much. I was limited to an hour after school in primary iirc. Reading? Weekly trip to the library?

vghifcqueen Mon 17-Oct-16 16:38:25

Mine got back at 5 at that age. TV, XBOX, football in the garden, football training and homework

akkakk Mon 17-Oct-16 16:41:19

varies hugely - it is the in-between time between primary and the more serious into GCSE stage of secondary school - a lot of kids at this age are exhausted, especially this term, esp. year 7 - so as long as they are:
- doing homework as necessary
- joining in with family meals etc.
- going to bed on time
then it is fine for kids to be bored / to do their own thing

Nanny0gg Mon 17-Oct-16 16:41:55

Have they no homework?
Some TV time, some game time, snacks?

What time is dinner?

BackforGood Mon 17-Oct-16 16:44:33

er..... some homework ? I mean, mine never went OTT with homework, but there should at least be some.
ds would also stay to 2 or 3 different clubs after school at that age, and would regularly come home via a game of football in the park.
He was also going to Scouts and to swimming training.

YesItsMeIDontCare Mon 17-Oct-16 16:45:02

DS does homework, sometimes has a friend round, talks my ears off plays on PS4, goes and kicks a ball around if it's dry enough, does a sport once a week...

Nothing too taxing.

plastique Mon 17-Oct-16 16:46:53

Dinner is at 4pm generally, homework takes half an hour but that's later on nearer bed time. They both do football practice one night a week.
Whatever I seem suggest is just a 'No.. And either too tired or can't be bothered or that's boring!!'

lozzylizzy Mon 17-Oct-16 16:47:14

My eldest is 8. He has half hour or so outside with his football, in for a snack and a drink. He goes upstairs for an hour playing minecraft. Then he comes down to do any homework until dinner time at 6. He then has desert and goes for a shower. He comes back down and spends time with us, reads his school book. He usually has a slice of toast/bowl of cereal about 8.30 and goes up to bed. He has a shower at some point between dinner and bed but he just goes and gets in himself.

I don't think computer games are bad. Its a type of relaxation but as long as they are doing other things too.

PatriciaHolm Mon 17-Oct-16 16:48:51

clubs 2-3 times a week (rugby, football, coding); homework; reading; and screen time. Some evenings mostly screens, some none!

PatriciaHolm Mon 17-Oct-16 16:49:59

Dinner at 4? Are they not starving again by the time they go to bed?

massistar Mon 17-Oct-16 16:54:00

My 11 year old does sports most nights except for a Tuesday so it's in from school, do a bit of homework, quick snack and then out. Dinner and bath when we get home and then he reads for about 30 mins before bed. He gets a bit of screen time whilst I'm doing dinner.

Sunnymeg Mon 17-Oct-16 18:16:49

Home, snack and change out of uniform. Chill for about an hour, then homework. Walk the dog Tea around 6.30pm. Skype friends to see what they are up to. Then either read or do something that isn't screen time until bedtime.

loona13 Mon 17-Oct-16 18:21:23

Football, basketball, futsal and karate. Some PS, mainly Fifa, occasionally homework.

Balletgirlmum Mon 17-Oct-16 18:23:14

Gosh we run out of time every night. (Year 8 DS)

By the time homework is finished & we've eaten its around 6.30pm & that's on non activity nights. On those nights he generally gets done time on the Xbox, YouTube or playing football in the street.

If DS stays behind after school for hockey practice or drama rehearsals for example we don't get home until gone 6pm then it's a mad rush to eat. Homework usually takes about an hour plus guitar practice.

He then takes at least half an hour of faffing about getting his bag, books, PE kit & clothes sorted for the next day. Then a shower & we usually realise it's gone 9pm at that point.

dietcokeandwine Mon 17-Oct-16 18:27:15

My Y8 walks a couple of miles each way to and from school, and the long walk coupled with the mental demands of school (he has Aspergers/add, so has more to deal with in just coping with the school day than your typical NT child) he needs plenty of after school downtime.

He does karate once a week and I try to encourage him to do another after school club once a week too but he's often quite resistant to that. He gets 2-3 lots of homework per night anyway so he gets that done. And I try to get him out in the garden on the trampoline for short spells when the weather's half decent.

Other than that he tends to be chilling with his iPad. I don't generally let him game during the week but for him (and this is probably linked to his SN) the iPad is critical downtime and, as he puts it, a chance to 'empty my brain and clear my head'.

BlueCowWonders Mon 17-Oct-16 18:32:29

Tennis, rugby, nothing, rugby and scouts, football is how my ds's week looks.
Plenty of screen time and Homework and pj time after that
And eating non-stop grin

FrancisCrawford Mon 17-Oct-16 18:32:35

At that age it was get changed out of uniform, bit of tv before tea at 6. Homework next, then clubs, instrument practice, daily chores like feeding rabbit, tidying room, then going to see friends for an hour so before home to get ready for bed, watch a bit more to, read or play a game. DD wasnt into gaming and didn't have her own phone until she was a high school.

Your tea time seems very early. Why is he changing into his pjs? It's like he's decided the day is nearly over at 4pm, which might be why he's reluctant to do anything much. I'd be making homework much earlier in the evening too. Certainly before any gaming, because once they get started...

But if he is tired, then an early bed would be best

Stillwishihadabs Mon 17-Oct-16 18:36:34

Ds is 12. Home around 5-530 is STARVING so eats 6ish then either screens, homework or homework,screens. He loves his bath so usually takes 1/2 hour. Bed is 9, will often chat to us or ask for help with his homework between 8 and 9. He has rugby one night a week and Saturday mornings. As the nights are drawing in, we will start swimming together once a week.

jelliebelly Mon 17-Oct-16 18:45:38

Mine do loads of after school sport so we often don't get in till nearly 6 - dinner, homework, reading in bed. No screens on schooldays, karate/rugby/running club/

HermioneJeanGranger Mon 17-Oct-16 18:45:47

When I was that age I did homework, played the Sims, watched some TV, read, had a shower or bath, had dinner and talked on the phone a lot!

arethereanyleftatall Mon 17-Oct-16 18:46:13

I'm not there yet, but I would hope my dds would be doing at least one sport after school (or scouts) every day.

jelliebelly Mon 17-Oct-16 18:46:40

Oh yes and endless time in the shower after sport!

GeorgeHerbert Mon 17-Oct-16 18:49:00

At that age ds did music practice, homework, one night Scouts, one night football training and one evening athletics. No PS 4 allowed Mon - Thur, some TV, and some general mooching.

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