I have just had enough of being a good friend to people, and of being good enough when they want something, but then ending up being overlooked and unappreciated. I think from now on I'm not going to make any effort, or do anything nice for anyone. If people invite me to things and I'm free and want to go then I'll go but otherwise I think I'll keep myself to myself. I know it sounds harsh but I feel like it's all I can do as nothing is ever anything that I can challenge without looking silly, but it's hurtful all the same!
Tonight I phoned a friend for a chat to see how she is after recently splitting from her partner. We chatted for half an hour. I've supported her a lot since the split, both practically and emotionally. An hour later she did a facebook status tagging another friend in our group thanking her for phoning her and saying how lovely it was to chat to her. Not a mention of me!
Then another friend got married a couple of years ago. I'd always considered us to be 'best' friends as we've been good friends for over 20 years and again I've been supportive to her and always there for her. She picked the two other friends that we spend time with in a group to be her bridesmaids, and didn't even invite me to the wedding or the reception, just to the evening do!
And a third example; I had my 40th birthday last month. I often meet up with a group of 8 other friends. Only one of them remembered my birthday and got me a card. When one of the others turned 40 back in July the others arranged a collection for her, and a surprise meal out and generally made a fuss of her. I didn't even get a happy birthday from any of them except for the one that remembered. Don't get me wrong, I didn't want the moon on a stick but it would have been nice to have had a bit of an acknowledgement, given that they made such a fuss of the other friend when she turned 40.
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HappiestMrsChicken · 10/10/2016 23:00
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