My other half can be unimaginably lazy at home and I'm getting to the point of packing his bags.
Give him his due he works damn hard 50+ hours a week but when he is home he does NOTHING! And I mean absolutely jack shit.
We had a baby 6 weeks ago and he has changed 3 nappies, hasn't bathed him or dressed him once ffs he has held him 20 times max and always has an excuse why. Main one being that he smokes "I've just had a ciggie, I can't hold him yet..."
I was washing up after making dinner the other day and the baby cried. He brought him in because he couldn't settle him "I don't know what to do with him" he said!
All through my pregnancy I still did everything as always. The only things I asked of him was to keep the yard clean (we have a dog) and clean the cat's litter tray every few days. The midwife stressed I shouldn't be doing this and I honestly didn't think it was too much to ask for. But he would leave both for well over a week and I would end up flipping out and doing it myself. I'd get so frustrated I would be close to tears and still he didn't think it was a problem.
He never cooks, never cleans and leaves me to sort our 2 children alone.
I remember now why I didn't want anymore children after our first 6 years ago. I once came home from work to find my eldest (8 months at the time) sucking on a piece of plaster while he played on the PlayStation with his friend!
He has this ability to make me feel like I'm over reacting and I end up feeling guilty because he works his ass off at work. Then on the other hand I'm up throughout the night breastfeeding, walk 2 hours a day for the school run, keep the house in order, keep them fed and in clean clothes and everything else in between!
This week for example he has booked 4 days off work for a fricking game but couldn't for registering the baby, I had to go alone and leave father's name blank . He told me he would take our oldest to school each morning giving me a bit of extra time in bed (even though the baby wakes at 5 every morning) and spend time on his game. He spent 18 hours on there yesterday and he is still playing after getting online for 9.30am this morning. "Are you getting him ready for school tomorrow then?" He said. My jaw nearly hit the floor.
I love this man with all my heart but for the sake of my sanity something needs to change and fast!
11 years we have been together and I'm loosing hope of things ever being better.
AIBU? My apologies of it is a bit rambly but my frustration is pouring out right now
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Chellykins · 21/09/2016 21:39
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