Met my OH four years ago, we now live together and make each other happy. (most of the time )
I have been widowed for 12 years, his wife died about 18 years ago then he went to work in China where he married again. Happy marriage for 11 years then when time came near for him to retire she refused to accompany him back to the UK. When we first met he explained it all, and his family have confirmed everything he told me. He was heart broken at the time but by the time we met he had come to terms with the situation.
Since we became a couple he has tried to get a divorce because I am most uncomfortable with him still being married. At first his wife agreed though she always took at least 3 months to answer each email. Apparently divorce is simple in China, you simply take the marriage papers in to a government office, pay the fee and it is done. OH sent the marriage papers to her and she confirmed receiving them but has done nothing. She always had excuses (out of town would see to it in her return etc.) but in the last year she has not contacted him.
Neither of us wish to marry, we have grown up families who accept us as a couple but from time to time I get very upset that I am with another woman's husband.
OH just wants us to get on with our lives but I would dearly love the situation to be regularised. AIBU to insist he keeps trying to get a divorce?
Incidentally I have NC for this but it is my first post.
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57968sp · 20/09/2016 09:07
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