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to think this Facebook comment is just fucking rude? Or is it seriously an attempt at a compliment?

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BlackDove123 Wed 14-Sep-16 00:03:37

I feel like it was supposed to be a compliment, but wasn't thought about properly.

Don't worry, my post wasn't me fishing for compliments, I literally just shared a memory and the caption was me moaning about my looks when I was unwell (I was a teen btw!) and went on to say how I wished I looked like that now. Anyway, makes no sense without seeing it.

She comments this...

Oh, I crossed out any names, pictures, etc.

Lj8893 Wed 14-Sep-16 00:04:37

Yeah it's quite a backhanded compliment!

ProfessorPickles Wed 14-Sep-16 00:08:58

What an awful thing to say! I can see why you'd be annoyed OP

Pumpkintopf Wed 14-Sep-16 00:09:20

That's horrible!

AmeliaJack Wed 14-Sep-16 00:10:55

Don't you think she meant to say "gorgeous inside and out"?

<hopeful>

DailyFaily Wed 14-Sep-16 00:12:46

That's beyond rude, no need at all!

TheWitTank Wed 14-Sep-16 00:13:47

Yikes. I bet it is just a very badly worded effort at a compliment. Horrible though -what a goof!!

TheWitTank Wed 14-Sep-16 00:14:23

I thought that AmeliaJack.

TheGruffaloMother Wed 14-Sep-16 00:15:21

Yeah, it's either very openly backhanded or you have a friend like one I've got who manages to muddle common phrases just enough in her head that it completely changes the essence to those of us reading smile

PaulAnkaTheDog Wed 14-Sep-16 00:15:58

Bloody hell! shock

BlackDove123 Wed 14-Sep-16 00:18:48

I hope that's what she meant! Not because I don't know the truth, but because I just think she's being rude grin actually, that would have fitted nicely right where my name was! Maybe it was auto correct [grins] <hopes>

I'm just very surprised! Glad I'm not being oversensitive...

Lweji Wed 14-Sep-16 00:22:50

Considering the "ur"'s and the "then", she probably muddled up what she meant to say.

M00nUnit Wed 14-Sep-16 00:27:58

That's horrible! Is the person who posted that a friend of yours or just someone you know vaguely?

MissLadyM Wed 14-Sep-16 00:39:44

You clearly were fishing - why would you post a shit pic of yourself otherwise. You were hoping for 'you're gorgeous hun' comments to bolster your self esteem. Lesson learnt. Work on your self esteem and don't wallow in the past

BlackDove123 Wed 14-Sep-16 00:42:25

At the time I probably was, with the original post, yes. I was 17. I don't think you read the OP properly.

She isn't one of my closest friends, but I work with her and would class her as a friend.

chipmonkey Wed 14-Sep-16 00:49:00

I reckon she meant to say "You're not just pretty; you're gorgeous inside and out" but got herself muddled.

VioletBam Wed 14-Sep-16 00:57:23

She's not a friend.

QuimReaper Wed 14-Sep-16 01:10:09

Since she can't seem to construct a proper written sentence, I wouldn't read too much into what came out!

e1y1 Wed 14-Sep-16 01:16:40

Yes a very backhanded compliment. Also, their grammar is appalling.

DixieWishbone Wed 14-Sep-16 01:36:11

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DixieWishbone Wed 14-Sep-16 01:37:15

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torthecatlady Wed 14-Sep-16 01:43:50

grin Dixie!

I suspect it was a typo!! Or a bad attempt of a joke...

NewbieElizabeth Wed 14-Sep-16 03:09:18

I read that and though it was a harsh comment, or an attempt at humour.

But, now I've looked at it again I think its a combination of an attempt at a compliment and a typo. I think she means 'No, you are not pretty! You are gorgeous (emphasis on the gorgeous, meaning you are more than pretty) However, she crucially left off the 'and outside' bit...

Did anyone else check for typos more than usual given the subject topic? grin

claraschu Wed 14-Sep-16 03:16:20

I think it's clear she was telling you-"not pretty, but gorgeous". That's what the style of writing, the exclamation marks, and the general illiteracy says to me. I really don't think she means to be insulting, but i also this this whole exchange is silly.

tighterthanscrooge Wed 14-Sep-16 04:34:38

She's one of those women who makes herself feel better by bringing others down
You certainly don't need people like this as friends

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