I've name changed, although anyone who knows me will most likely figure out that it's me.
DH & I have one DS (6) who is Autistic, although he's six, he has the mental age of a 3 year old, he's non verbal, no awareness of danger, lots of sensory issues etc
DH & I do everything with him together as one person would just be physically/mentally/emotionally exhausted
We work full time and then in the evening when we get home we swap around, so one person entertains DS whilst the other cooks, then swap around again etc
DSis has 6 kids, the oldest is 11, the youngest is 4 months, her DH is pretty useless, he works full time but does absolutely nothing with his kids, doesn't put them to bed, help with their reading, goes to the gym in the evenings after work etc. DSis is always making excuses for him, it's like she has 7 kids.
As it's summer, DS has a childminder from 7:30-3 then my parents take DS for 2 days 3-4:30 and DH's parents take DS for 3 days 3-4:30 DH & I get home and do our evening routine.
DSis always wants to do family related activities every weekend, that would be great if she could handle 6 kids on her own in a busy environment, she can't and so she expects everyone else to help watch over her DC, they're not horribly behaved just regular excited children, they're aged 11,9,7,4,2 & 4 months
Because DH & I both go on these outings, she always expects help, we do try and help but it just makes the day so much more difficult for us, so we've turned down the past few outings, our parents never come along & have refused to babysit on a number of occasions.
I've just had DSis on the phone, complaining about all the support I receive with DS, how neither I nor our parents are willing to help her out, I understand things are difficult for her, but I can't do these outings, 3 adults with 7 kids, one who needs to be watched 24/7 isn't doable, the elephant in the room was that her own DH does shit all & is free on the weekends, but I knew bringing him up wouldn't help at all.
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JamJimmyJam · 10/08/2016 16:21
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