I've NC as I'm just getting so torn over this I feel one day I'll burst and say something but I would feel so bad to say anything.
By background my SIL lives nearby she has a chronic life limiting illness. Day to day to the outside world you would not physically see it. She has two children and a husband who works. Behind the scenes so to speak she has a lot of drugs and treatments during the day.
I belive because of this life limiting illness her parents and family generally not live in fear but are very very cautious of anything that will cause her health problems or exacerbate her illness. This makes sense.
I live nearby with two small children and I have no family nearby and DH works long hours. I'm often alone. We have kids a similar age and well I would love to do more togther.
MiL and SIL spend pretty much every day together. SiL's kids stay at their grandparents a lot 3-4 times a week so mIL can help SIL stay healthy and strong. MIL does a lot of their cooking and cleaning. (I don't want any of this by the way). All I want is for once for my MiL and FIL to see my kids weeks can pass by and we live even closer than SIL. Mil will sometimes invite us round but SIL is always there. Often not an issue by my kids never get time with their grandparents. ILaws take SIL and her kids on holiday. Often subbing them quite significantly this I'm not bothered about either. Sometimes we are invited but locations are expensive even if we were helped we still couldn't afford it. My kids miss out.
I try hard with my SIL but I think for various reasons she's hard to get close to. Organises things with her own friends and well I feel lonely. I have my friends but I grew up very close to my GParents I always wanted that for my kids. My father passed away my mother lives far away
SIL is always abrupt with me and uses me when she has no one else around. MIL is a great person but she doesn't have time for us beacaue of her daughters health issues. I just feel sad. And I feel iABU because I don't have a life shortening disease I should just get on. My eldest child is more aware now and sees the treatment the other GCs get and it confuses them.
AIBU right? I should just get on with it. SIL is known to be a selfish person my DH has said she's always been like that and because of her illness incredibly spoilt. I just needed to rant really. I feel bad for not just getting on
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Sofedup1244 · 05/08/2016 15:10
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