Disclaimer: this is a short term idea until we get something more permanent in place.
STBXH moved out 2 weeks ago. He is in a shared house and doesn't feel comfortable taking the DC there. I'm fine with that but won't allow him back into the flat to see them either.
I have been meeting him in local parks for an hour here and there with them.
2 DC, 4 years and 22 months.
STBXH has Never had them out together. He always took one and left one with me. He is asking if he can take them out on his own, but one at a time.
And I feel really annoyed by this. I know it's going to mean he will be wanting one today and one tomorrow. And then a couple days later one then, one the next day.
Dd (4) will probably accept being told that he only has one car seat so can only take them one at a time but I feel like I'm still his child care.
I'm struggling along, trying to make ends meet, and find out rhythm and he's swanning in proposing cinema trips and play centres and special one on one time. Things I can't easily afford (I know I'm gonna have to get over this its just all a bit raw and it smarts cos he had zero interest in taking them 'out' when he lived with them)
And yes, I could have special one on one time with which ever one gets left behind so maybe that's the silver lining but I can't help feeling like I'm being used as child care cos he is too lazy and scared to attempt coping with them both.
I have to do everything with them both. Often had to when he lived here.
I can't go out and leave one behind. Not an option so I just feel that he should grow up and take this responsibility.
He says it isn't enjoyable to take them both out cos the little one tantrums and tries to run off (STBXH flatly refused to use buggy or reins) and then Dd screams if he doesn't do what she wants (she doesn't do that with me cos she knows it won't work but it does work with daddy).
AIBU to just to peed off by this?
I possibly am.
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Over this proposed contact arrangement?
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MrsDeathOfRats · 26/07/2016 10:34
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