On Friday I was in A&E with a suspected DVT, they couldn't find anything then sent me home. On Sunday it felt like I had been stabbed in the rib, couldn't breathe well and had to call an ambulance. I was really scared for my life as everyone suspected a pulmonary embolism. I checked into the hospital on Facebook (something that I never normally do) and made a bit of joke like 'should get a frequent visitors pass twice in a weekend). I was really scared and just needed the support from my friends. Anyway the ONLY member of OH's family to ask if I was okay was OH's dad. He rang OH as soon as he saw it to find out if I was alright, I'm not the type to broadcast on FB so he knew it was serious. Anyway the rest of OH's family did not comment, call, text etc, and I know they saw it because they're all extremely quick to 'like' pictures of DD on Facebook. I find it really rude that not one of them asked if I was okay, OH spoke to his mum 6 times today (the first time since Sunday) and she didn't mention anything.
If any of my inlaws were in hospital I would have genuine concern for them and be the first on the phone offering help and checking they're okay. Am I right to be annoyed? I thought it was just courteous to ask after people, especially if they had a potentially fatal thing. Luckily the pain in my leg is sciatica and my lung is connected to the asthma I developed carrying DD.
I asked OH to have a word with his family and just ask why they didn't care enough to ask how I was but he point blank refused which has caused hostility between me and him. I thought I had an okay relationship with his family but obviously not. The problem is we are moving home to be closer to his family in 8 days (I don't have much family) and I don't know if I can keep myself from saying something to one of them or all of them TBH. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I am hurt by their actions.
Sorry for rambling, it's late, I'm tired but it's just playing on my mind
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MilliesMum15 · 22/07/2016 00:40
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