DS1 is 5 months old and I'm currently on mat leave. I got my PhD just over a year ago, then moved away from academia into an entry-level position in a communications agency. I've never been very career-minded, and I'm not particularly ambitious, but I've always been very academic and enjoyed learning, so took the advice of teachers/lecturers and ended up doing a PhD. If I could have my time again I would have chosen something more vocational, but hey ho.
My job have offered me 3 days a week when I return after a year. It's a flexible company, close to home, I don't really enjoy the work, but it's not horrendous... I feel like I'd be stupid not to go back. But, I really just want to stay at home while my son (and any potential future DC) is little. I love being a mum, and I want to be the one he's with every day. If I go back to work the vast majority of my salary would go on childcare (I don't earn much, due to it being an entry level position, but there is the potential to earn more if I work my way up the company, although I'm not sure how realistic that would be on part-time hours). DH earns well, so with some financial readjustment we would be fairly comfortable on his salary.
I feel a lot of pressure (not from DH, he's happy either way) from most of my family and some friends that I should go back to work, that if I don't all of my education will be for nothing. I'm worried that if I wanted to go back to work in, say, 5 years (which I will), I'll be completely unemployable as I'll have no recent experience but would be ridiculously over-qualified.
So AIBU to want to take the time out now to raise a family, and run the risk of struggling to get back to work in the future? Would I be stupid not to take the part time hours at my job - I know a lot of people don't have the luxury of being able to do PT.
As an aside, I've always loved the idea of teaching, I've taught while studying and loved it. Would love to train as a teacher in the future, when DS is at school, but again worried that years out of the workforce would negatively affect this.
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LittleSausageFingers · 18/07/2016 21:16
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