DD is 9 years old. She has mild learning difficulties and was selectively mute up until 18 months ago. She was being bullied and so moved schools after Christmas and has been much happier since. Two summers ago, exH booked a long weekend away mid September meaning DD had to miss Friday and Monday at school, even though he had obviously just had the summer holidays when he could have taken her away. I was not happy and DD was very anxious about missing school.
Now he has informed me tonight that he's booked a holiday which means DD missing the first day back in September this year. His holiday is booked from Monday-Sunday but he said he's leaving a day early because his GFs friends wedding is on the Sunday, which he also wants DD to attend. So effectively he wants DD to miss the first day back at school and have no rest time after holiday before going to a late finishing and 1.5 hour away wedding, meaning a late night on the night before going back to school even though she's never met the person who's wedding it is.
When he booked the holiday in September a couple of years ago, I specifically said it's a good idea not to book holidays at the beginning or end of the summer holidays because she's usually run down and poorly at the beginning and needs to be home and getting back into routine at the end. I have been fully flexible as we're going on holiday in October and said he could pick any weeks to have her.
Because of her anxiety/friendship difficulties/previous mutism, I think she could really struggle with having a disrupted start to the year and I've been thinking of asking him to return her to me on the Thursday afternoon so she doesn't miss the first day back at school. The holiday is 2.5 hour drive away. I thought I could then offer to collect her from the wedding at a reasonable time so she can still go, his plans aren't disrupted and she isn't too tired for school on Monday. AIBU to ask these things of him or do I just need to let it go?
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partridgeappletree · 14/05/2016 22:48
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