I have lurked for ages and have just decided to create an account to ask this question. Will try to keep it short as I might be making a mountain out of a molehill!
DH and I (2 young DCs) both have hobbies which are independant of one another and I believe this is a good thing. However, he plays golf and I find this in particular is a constant source of arguments and resentment during the 'golfing session'.
The problem I have is that he is gone for 5 hours one day every weekend (both working Mon to Fri). It makes it hard for me to fit in the things I like and need to do at the weekend (my hobby, supermarket shopping and spending time together as a family - plus all obligations like family and kids parties). Last weekend he was away overnight with another sport he does and I felt thought he should cancel this week's round (I would have done this without hesitation).
He says he works hard and deserves it and I agree. It's just that I feel like it is me who is juggling everyone's social life and trying always to be fair, yet he only thinks about his own.
Last week he forgot to pick up the DC because I decided not to phone and remind him for the first time ever - I thought he would remember. He was at the gym!
I feel guilty when I go to the hairdressers, yet he happily goes away twice that time every weekend.
If I did want to do something alone for several hours one weekend I couldnt because I would feel the DC would be being doubley cheated IYSWIM.
He is a good husband and helps, but I feel the stress is really on me to know what needs done and when. I feel like we aren't necessarily his first thought even though I know he loves us and it makes me sad.
Sorry that this turned out long and rambling!! I guess I just need someone to listen and tell me to shake myself out of it!
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joggingfrog · 08/05/2016 10:31
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