A got married quite recently. I invited all my aunts, uncles and cousins on my mum's side. I have great aunts and uncles on my dad's side who I've met once. I don't know their names nor would I recognise their faces. I also have first cousins who I don't know on my dad's side - his sister is dead and he didn't stay in contact with herchildren (this happened before I was born)
So I invited 6 of my parents closest friends so that they'd have a fairer amount on 'my family' side.
Dad got offended I hadn't invited great aunts and uncles. I said that I didn't know them or their names which is why I hadn't invited them, apologised, and gave my parents the choice of who to invite - the great aunts and uncles, or their friends. They chose their friends.
In the end, lots of my family dropped out of coming. My DP had 25 on his side and I ended up with 16, out of an invited 22. 85 people came to the wedding altogether. My parents paid for 30 percent of the wedding
Now my mum is making passive aggressive comments about there being no one invited from my dad's side. I find it hard to talk.openly with her and don't want a huge argument to blow up.
I feel desperately sad for my dad, but equally this situation is partially due to his lack.of effort - I think it's easier for them to blame me rather than accept that they haven't stayed in touch with people.
Have I hugely misjudged this? Should I have invited them anyway as well as their friends? I am feeling very guilty.
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Wedding fall out - feeling guilty
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Worriedthought2016 · 13/04/2016 17:23
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