Dd is 24. Lives at home. Articulate, intelligent, very good job. Very stubborn & a strong personality but obviously i love her dearly. I know I have indulged her over the years. Eg: she doesnt pay rent as she was meant to be saving a deposit but never did.
Dd has had an on off relationship with her dp since she was 17.
Hes a prolific burglar. He's been in & out of priaon since he was 15. I wasn't happy with her choice but it was her choice. Her dp was never anything but polite etc whenever he came to our house...Spent Christmas' with us etc.
Then our house was raided, twice. He was arrested yet again. I stood up in Crown Court defending him. I couldnt have tried harder to help him.
Then i realised dd was scared of him. I realised he was controlling. I suspected he was hitting her but she wouldn't confide in me. Then he beat her up so badly that she had black eyes for 2 weeks. The police didnt follow up (do not know the details). He ended up back in Prison for another crime. Dd realised he'd also cheated on her.
2 years later my dd has started seeing him again.
Last night at 12.40 he came to our house. Dd let him in. They didn't acknowledge dp or I. Walked straight past the room we were in without speaking to us.
I have told dd i respect but do not like her choice of partner. I cannot & will not tolerate him in my home.
Dd says I am listening to my dp & being 2 faced. My dp isn't happy with the situation but ultimately this is about a criminal who steals for a living & beat my dd on many occasions but to the point she had bruising for 2 weeks.
She's an adult but i cannot ignore what her dp does & did to her.
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PeppasNanna · 13/04/2016 09:37
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