For an overseas wedding?
My male df is getting married in an expensive place overseas. The dc are 2 and 5 and are not invited.
It is costing us lots more money than our usual holiday and we are taking family as babysitters whilst we go away.
Not to drip feed but we also got married abroad (but we were clear people didn't have to come) and didn't mind that those who did come didn't get us presents.
This df did get an invite to come to our wedding abroad but I phrased it as no obligation and had a party at home as well. He didn't buy us a gift for that either. I noticed but didn't mind.
I have known him for 20 years. He is very tight fisted. So is she.
So I was never intending to buy a gift given the extra £2,000 the holiday has cost above our usual holiday budget. Dh and I have also been invited to and paid for expensive stag dos (they are having 2 each! ) We went to one stag each at a total cost of £500! I declined the hen do invite as it was getting on for another £300!
They have now emailed us with a gift list. No poem 😁 but also none of the usual 'don't feel obliged to buy us a gift' preamble. Instead it says "some of our friends asked about gifts so we set up this gift list. Or John Lewis vouchers welcome!"
Aibu to send them a card with a nice message and omit the gift. Or do I have to spell out why no gift?
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ZenNudist · 08/04/2016 20:23
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