To give my babies ready made baby food sometimes?

[Fondantfancy66]

I'm surrounded by friends and family giving me cats bum faces over giving my 7 month old twins pouches and jars of baby food. I'm avoiding ones with sugar. Im making my own purées too, but sometimes life is just too busy. I'm not unreasonable am I? One baby has a dairy allergy, the other refuses pretty much everything and particularly homemade puree, I have a three year old as well, and a husband who works away during the week.

You'd think I was giving them gin by the looks on some peoples faces......

[HPsauciness]

Who do they think buys all these products then?

I'm for what works, when you are busy and have a toddler.

I used to do the same as you, some purees or finger food at home and when I had the energy, and jars when out and about.

Don't sweat it, is there one person who is pulling faces?

[NeedACleverNN]

I did.

In fact both of mine were pretty much raised on jars with a bit of finger food thrown in.

[Fondantfancy66]

Not just one person. Mum is all "I made my own baby food for you, so much better than jarred rubbish." Well, maybe, but when I was born her older child was at school, so she had time to make baby food. I have three at home, one of whom is constantly vomiting, one of whom refuses anything I make but loves Ella's Kitchen, and a three year old who is struggling a bit with the youngest ones. I know I'm not actually being unreasonable, it just knocks you a bit when you're already having a tough time!

[IHaveBrilloHair]

I fed dd on them for a good couple of months, she's fine and eats biscuits and pringles pretty much any thing as a teenager

[JapaneseSlipper]

Pfft. It's fine. Pouches are about a million times easier when out and about, so that's all anyone ever saw mine eating. And there's something about Ella's, isn't there??

Any pursed lips should be met with, "of course, if YOU had twins you'd understand" whilst smiling sweetly and smugly

[Schwabischeweihnachtskanne]

It makes absolutely no difference in the end. The batch cookers of Anabelle Karmel or whatever will be chucking chicken nuggets at their kids soon enough - even if they don't the kids will all turn out the same.

My mother fed us so healthily as kids that the first time I was given cheap processed white sliced bread when I went for tea at a school friend's house I thought it was the food of the gods and begged my mum to find out where they got such Lovely Bread from and buy it for us sometimes :o

[Minisoksmakehardwork]

I have twins and two older dc. All of them survived quite happily on jars and pouches. They did have proper food too sometimes when we had left overs. But the time saved was far more beneficial to me and all the Dc instead of feeling like I was spending whole days in the kitchen with masses of effort for very little return.

I think people who don't have twins can under estimate how much time is spent just doing basic cares and then there's the normal household running to do too.

Chances are by the time you've fed and changed them after dinner, one is sick so you clean that up. Meanwhile twin 2 fills their nappy. Change them. Twin 1 fills theirs. Then it's getting two babies down for a nap. Thankfully mine did sleep at the same time. But not everyone's do. And as they grow that changes anyway. Here dtd slept for much longer than her twin brother. But waking her meant she was cranky.

I also found they ate a much wider variety of foods from jars than I would cook. So another plus here.

[RudeElf]

Absolutely fine. Jars are not poison. Keep doing what youre doing. Its perfectly fine.

[Sparklycat]

My mum was the same, I made some baby foods and also have pouches and jars because they are quick and also more interesting flavours than the things I would make. I got a comment from her every time she saw me using a jar. Nothing wrong with it in my opinion! It's just like buying a ready meal/frozen food which I'm sure we all do at times for our families anyway!

[KleineDracheKokosnuss]

Ellas kitchen is the food of the gods. Quick,easy and usually cheap as it's on offer every few weeks. When the choice was between Ellas or making my own I decided myown would be no healthier, and would probably cost more in my time,gas, electricity for the processing,and sanity.

[FlyChickie]

Tell them all to fuck off - your babies, your decision.

As for your mum, tell her: wow mum, you did such an amazing job at raising me, (cue discussion on how fab you are), I learned everything from you. Thanks for the great job you did, now it's my turn.

...and watch it dawn on her face exactly what you said

[Mishaps]

Just ignore them! - how dare they give you funny looks.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

It's totally fine.

My daughter is a puree refuser. I'd love for her to eat a pouch!

[roundtable]

Maybe you should suggest to your mum that if she's that bothered she chips in and makes some purees for you.

Take no notice op, I hope the vomiting improves.

[StayAChild]

Maybe you should suggest to your mum that if she's that bothered she chips in and makes some purees for you.

Exactly what I was thinking. Ask your Mum to batch cook some of her old recipes for you to keep in your freezer. That should keep her busy for a while.
I cook for my Granddaughter and freeze it for when they visit.
Otherwise, continue with what suits you best. Some of those ready meals look delicious and very nutritious and it's really no one else's business.

[MyBreadIsEggy]

Of course you're not being U.
Let the do-gooders borrow your twins and 3yo for a few days, get them to clean a house, do laundry for 5 people, juggle nap times, cook a meal for 2 adults and a toddler, then find time to make, cool and freeze homemade baby food
I used to make homemade purées if I had a free Sunday afternoon, if I ran out of homemade ones before I had chance to make more, DD would have an Ella's Kitchen meal pouch or a jar of something with a bit of finger food.
She's 11mo now and eats what we are having, but will I was having a new kitchen fitted and couldn't use the cooker very easily, she had a few microwave toddler meals shoot me

[MartinaJ]

Tell them they are more than welcome to prepare some nice and healthy meals for your little one. If they don't want to, they are more than welcome to GFT. Sideways, preferably.

[HeteronormativeHaybales]

It took me till 'babies' to think YANBU. Twins, a 3yo and a dh away in the week? You're doing great.

Mine doesn't get jars but my older two are 8 and 10 and my dh is home in the evenings!

[Igottastartthinkingbee]

Absolutely give them pouches!!!! My DSil gave her first everything homemade, her second baby had a bit of homemade and some pouches/jars. By the time her twins came along she was pouches/jars all the way!!!!

They're getting fed, don't worry about it.

[FirstWeTakeManhattan]

YABU.

Sorry to buck the trend OP, but they are your children. If you are too busy to grow your own vegetables, watered with organic unicorn tears, and pureed by hand whilst softly singing self-penned lullabies, then it's just not right.



I did discover something with DC3 though…refillable pouches, so that when you do get chance to make purees, you can still feed them with a pouch, which I loved as I can't bear food mess unsuited to feeding babies.

[jamhot]

You're feeding your children. It's nobody’s business how you feed your child, so long as you do so.

[teatowel]

All over this country there are healthy happy adults who were brought up on tins jars and pouches. Ignore them .

[Twixthecat]

Ignore anyone who thinks you should cook everything from scratch themselves! I wish I'd used pouches from the start. Itd saved me a lot of stress and would have given me more quality time with DS and probably have helped to develop a positive attitude to food from the start.

I only have one DS, but I remember several times being in tears after spending ages preparing stuff only for it to be ignored, spat out etc. Or him screaming because it'd taken longer than I planned to make and he was over tired and hungry. I'd get stressed, he'd get upset. Not a healthy relationship with food.

When I started to use jars and pouches it made life so much easier. I'd still try and cook as much as I could from scratch - doing batches and freezing individual portions.

My mum was very anti jars & pouches too. But I think one day coming over and finding me in a bit of a state feeling a overwhelmed with everything. And her telling me to sit down for 5 minutes, but me saying I had to get on with making food for DS. Then SHE asked if I had a jar or something I could give instead.... and it transpired that she actually did used to always have in a box of Heinz dried stuff you just added water to for us!!!! We got into the discussion and I think she realised that baby food now is a hell of a lot better than it was when I was being weaned!!!

[ExtraHotLatteToGo]

Book a fortnights holiday for yourself.

Drop the kids at your mums.

You'll never get another peep out of her about pouches/jars.

Or tell her if she doesn't take the rose tinted glasses & judge pants off you'll be forced to stay away from her for your sanity...

[Summerblaze100]

My DD didn't like jars so I used to make my own. It was fine as I was a SAHM and only had her (hate cooking though).

DS1 and DS2 had a mixture of own cooked and jars which made life lots easier with more of them to look after. They are all similar in how much/what they eat now.

Pregnant with DC4 and as long as they are fed, I'm not going to worry about how that happens.