To ask my neighbour to slow down if he's going to use my driveway?

[NickNacks]

Our next door neighbour has a lodger who likes to reverse park in to their driveway. Nothing wrong with that, very sensible since we live on the main village road.

We have a driveway that is double width. If DH isn't home the neighbour will pull forward in to DH's space and use it to reverse back in to his. I don't have a problem with this particularly but he's a very fast driver and hurtles toward me in our sitting room making me nervous that one day he's going to plough straight in to the house.

I'm also a childminder so have lots of children's safety to consider.

AIBU to set conditions on his use of our driveway or does it sound a bit petty?

[familysizepack]

Nope Yanbu. Especially with the child safety issue.

[MyKingdomForBrie]

YANBU at all, I would go out next time he does it and state very clearly that he drives slowly on your property or not at all.

[OurBlanche]

YANBU at all. Tell him, remind him that you are a childminder and maybe, to impress upon him the seriousness, that some of your parents have mentioned it to you.

The driveway is yours, it is not petty to tell anyone to stop using it!

[AlisonWunderland]

Shut the gate.
That'll learn 'im!

[Ameliablue]

No I don't think that is unreasonable.

[Mummy2squish]

YANBU. We have a double drive and often both cars are off it during the day, we have skid marks on one side and a scrape mark on the other where some cheeky beggars have misjudged turning around on it Wish i I caught them

[CactusKate]

He might be doing is as quick as possible so he doesnt get caught.

But definately ask him to slow down. If hes going that quick, he wont be checking his mirrors (all 3) and he wouldnt see if a little child ran out there.

YANBU at all.

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

yabnu AT ALL! tell him straight

[ToadsforJustice]

Tell him he cannot use your drive at all. Don't discuss conditions. Tell him straight he is trespassing. Don't give him permission to use your drive or before long he will be parking there.

[bornwithaplasticspoon]

Get some cones and block your drive off until he gets the hint.

[RudeElf]

If youre using the space for minded children shouldnt it be enclosed?

[JsOtherHalf]

How about leaving something like this up during the day?

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[CigarsofthePharoahs]

My Mum had a neighbour like that op. She would pull into my parents drive quite abruptly, then manoeuvre back into her own garage.
One day she knocked on the door to complain. I'd got some friends over that day and they'd filled the drive with their cars and she couldn't pull on to it to manoeuvre.
She was actually asking my friends to move their cars.

Penguin bollards?

[NickNacks]

Sorry! I'm back...

Penguin Bollards would be amazing!

The driveway is not used as a playing area for mindees and even if it was, there is nothing to say it has to be enclosed, otherwise we'd never visit a forest or park! However they are coming and going with their parents, with me to my car or just inside the house that he could hit!

I'm glad it's not unreasonable to tell him to slow down, though I am a little surprised so many have said to tell him not to use it altogether. I thought MN was very neighbour friendly!

[Charlesroi]

You could say that you don't mind him using the driveway but he needs to drive very slowly. Leave the threat of removing your consent hanging in the air.

[RudeElf]

Forest and park are different than the business outdoor space risk assessment wise. Maybe rules are different where you are but outside space has to be enclosed where I am. I assumed same all over which is why i asked.

[RudeElf]

And TBH with the knowledge that he does this and that you may have mindees in that space it would be mad not to put on a gate. I doubt you would have it passed as safe with that situation.

[StDogolphin]

I wouldnt verbally give him permission (right of way?).

[echt]

You need to to fence off your driveway to prevent any child from getting on to it. I wouldn't give him permission to use your drive - just tell him.

I've just been looking at my neighbour's beautiful new driveway, completely unfenced from the front garden they intend as their child's play area. Accident waiting to happen, and far form uncommon in Australia

[NickNacks]

RudeElf I have no idea what tangent you are on, I've said I don't use that space for minding. I have an enclosed rear garden, this is at the front on a main road. I do however use my house and that is what I am concerned about. I have already been registered (passed as safe) and inspected only 6 months ago.

[NickNacks]

We've thought about gates before but being on a narrow village road there's no where to pull up, get out, open gates, etc without causing a traffic jam every time.

[almostthirty]

As someone who has had someone crash into their living room YADNBU . a slight miscalculation could be a disaster.

[echt]

Oh, I see your back garden is enclosed.

[Inertia]

Given that the parents of your mindees use the drive for pickups, I think you absolutely have to tell him to stop using your drive. Don't even bother with slow down. The possible consequences of his careless driving far outweigh the risk of being thought petty.