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Or PFB to be angry at this email from osteopath?

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Truebluetrueblur Sun 13-Mar-16 21:33:29

When dd was born she had some problems turning her head. GP recommended that if we had the money we might find an osteopath can help and recommended someone from a well known London clinic and we took dd there twice a week, for 6 months at great expense to us. The osteopath told us that dd had some of the worst head turning problems she had ever seen, and being first time parents, that worried us a lot - hence shelling out all the money. After every session she would tell us it was essential she saw dd again in 3-4 days and if we said it was a bit soon and we couldn't afford it, she would make us feel guilty and say that we needed to prioritise dd's health. By the way she reacted to dd we totally lost perspective of the fact that the osteopathy was an "extra" and a luxury, rather than how she was presenting it - as an essential.

Over time dd's problems got better and we eventually extracted ourselves from this osteo by ignoring her emails and calls trying to get us to book more appointments.

Things went quiet for a bit then on dd's first birthday I got an email from the osteopath saying:

Happy birthday to dd! I am sure you are doing something wonderful for her! Please send me a picture if you can.

It is very important that I tell you we recommend a check up at 1 year old to make sure dd's problems don't come back.

I know you want to put dd first, so I'd suggest you become more pro-active than re-active. Looking at my records you have not come to the clinic since August which concerns me considering the way dd was when I last saw her.

Anyway I'll leave this with you.

Best...

Am I being PFB or over sensitive to be totally incensed at the way she is trying to extract more business from
Me but thinks I will buy her patronising "concern" and "happy birthday" to dd? And WIBU to reply telling her so? DD is now absolutely fine btw with no problems, so I have no idea what she is talking about "the way she was when I last saw her."

NickNacks Sun 13-Mar-16 21:36:10

Honestly just ignore the email. She'll back off when there's no reply rather than engaging and risking more pressure from her.

VimFuego101 Sun 13-Mar-16 21:36:11

Did she mention anything about the way DD was when you last saw her, at the time? Bit unprofessional if she didn't discuss things fully with you then. She sounds very pushy. I would just reply back 'unsubscribe' grin

RubbleBubble00 Sun 13-Mar-16 21:36:55

Just send her an email back saying 'thank you for your interest but we are have chosen to use a different osteopath'

Arkwright Sun 13-Mar-16 21:37:25

I would ignore her. We saw a cranial osteopath for Dd we had 6 sessions. She was very honest with us and didn't try to rip us off.

Ginmakesitallok Sun 13-Mar-16 21:38:21

Of course she's just after business. I'd either ignore (most likely) or reply,"Thank you for your kind wishes, dd has improved significantly since you last saw her, we are very pleased with her progress and are grateful for the support you gave. We will not be requiring a further appointment at this time." Or alternatively "feck off you charlatan"

0phelia Sun 13-Mar-16 21:39:20

She's being quite blatant in her sales push.
No need to get angry! I would just eye-roll and ignore.

GeoffreysGoat Sun 13-Mar-16 21:39:30

Wow. Slightly different but my friend's a chiropractor. He reckons 3-4 times to sort any birth trauma. Twice a week for 6 months seems loads!

Dontlaugh Sun 13-Mar-16 21:56:41

I'd probably ask her for a clinical report "for your records".
Then tell her you'll be in touch, after you receive it.
Then don't get in touch.

diddl Sun 13-Mar-16 21:57:25

Sounds awful.

I wonder if your GP would continue to recommend her if he knew about this?

I'd be pretty pissed off with them as well.

UnderTheGreenwoodTree Sun 13-Mar-16 21:58:38

I had one session with a cranial osteopath when DD was tiny - she'd had an awkward birth and cried a lot and a friend recommended us. We thought we'd give it a try.

After one session, having done some manoeuvring stuff, and said it was fine, and then said if we had any more concerns, to feel free to bring her back.

Seriously - ignore the e-mail. Osteopathy is one those things that is considered 'alternative/complementary' medicine - and iirc, with very few legal barriers to practise. You may well get the rogues and money-grabbers, in there with the good ones.

If your DD is ok, just ignore, if you think she still has a problem, go back to your GP.

Enkopkaffetak Sun 13-Mar-16 21:59:39

Sounds like someone who wants repeat business.

I would agree that twice a week for 6 months sounds like a lot. However I am in no way a professional.

I would simply ignore I find that is what helps the best with these things.

Happy birthday for your DD

BrainWillingBodyNotSoMuch Sun 13-Mar-16 22:01:15

I took ds to a cranial osteopath.

She said he needed to see a doctor at the hospital as he was too poorly to treat.

cestlavielife Sun 13-Mar-16 22:03:01

Send the email and complain to the college of osteopathy. Too pushy. Tell gp too gp should not be referring to someone who appears to be taking advantage.

AnotherTimeMaybe Sun 13-Mar-16 22:03:24

I'd love to know who it is .. I ve been to quite a few of them and yes I did meet a couple of shitty ones who kept on saying "come back next week!"

YANBU but do ignore her - If I were you I would say who it is so that you warn other mums

PovertyPain Sun 13-Mar-16 22:03:42

OH please tell the scam artist that you're using another osteo as you though an extra session a fortnight would be of benefit and this osteo lives closer. That'll get the greedy fucker's teeth gnashing. grin

Footle Sun 13-Mar-16 22:04:29

Contact the General Osteopathic Council. If she's not registered with them, she shouldn't be practicing. If she is, I believe they will reconsider her registration in the light of these unprofessional emails.

cestlavielife Sun 13-Mar-16 22:04:46

www.osteopathy.org.uk/register-search/

incywincybitofa Sun 13-Mar-16 22:05:28

I am afraid I was the fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me parent when it comes to osteopaths
That email is quite shocking though.

My experiences are
DS went to the cranial osteopath she told me to bring him back when he "had less issues" as he was very sensitive to touch which is why we were taking him....
DD no I don't know why I tried again- had eye and ear trouble some people suggested an osteo would compliment that so off I took her. A few sessions in the osteo suggested as DD was still complaining about the ear ache and sore eye she was probably making it up (she was under two and was crying at night in pain)
Both accredited- both recommended and both expensive

Your GP should probably have suggested physio if your daughter was that much in need. Maybe it would be worth checking with a different GP if you are still concerned

MajesticWhine Sun 13-Mar-16 22:07:32

Yanbu. Tell them the treatment wasnt helpful and kindly please do not contact me again. I would be tempted to complain to a professional body.

TheFrendo Sun 13-Mar-16 22:07:42

Ignore the letter and mentally send a two word reply.

How much did were you charged per hour - was it eye-watering?

CaveMum Sun 13-Mar-16 22:08:07

I took DD to a cranial osteopath on the recommendation of a lactation consultant because she had difficulty turning her head to feed well on one side - shed got stuck at the shoulders during birth.

We had four or five sessions over 2 months and it definitely helped. The osteopath told us that her work was done but that, if we wanted, we could bring her back for a check up when she started crawling and/or walking. She emphasised that it wasn't compulsory and that we could email her at any time if we had concerns.

That was over 20 months ago and we've never once been contacted since.

PastaLaFeasta Sun 13-Mar-16 22:09:05

I've had various osteopaths and physios but they've usually spread out appointments after the first few and sometimes even suggested I try something else and stop treatment, so this pushiness isn't typical. I can't imagine osteopathic treatment twice a week for a small baby would be advisable. I'm never sure whether osteopathy is truly helpful, some seem very medical, almost like a physio, while others are a tad woo with gentle touching. I'd ignore and maybe block her email. You don't owe her an explanation and definitely not a photo - any chance she wants it for her marketing materials?

backtowork2015 Sun 13-Mar-16 22:10:51

Did your dd have torticollis? (difficulty head turning). My ds did and gp referred to nhs physio ...wonder why you were referred to private when it was the "worst head turning problems". I'd be inclined to take this up with your gp, you shouldn't have had to pay in the first place!

BlueJug Sun 13-Mar-16 22:13:32

I wd do as others have sad re registration and mentioning to GP

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