Hi,
I have a friend who I've neither seen nor heard of for ages. To the extent where I started to think I'd offended her.
She used to live in my city but moved north to be with her partner and bought a house with him about 6 months ago that they've been doing up.
So I texted her and asked her if I'd done something to upset her and, if so, it was unintentional I was sorry if I'd unwittingly caused any offence.
So she called me and said "Don't be silly, you're lovely, I've just been putting all my energy into the house - I get tunnel vision sometimes."
Following on from that, whenever I suggested we meet up she was busy and did not suggest alternative arrangements or initiate any further contact with me. So I decided that for whatever reason, she wasn't that interested and decided I would not contact her again, even though she is a lovely woman. We are both in our fifties and have been friends for about 9 years.
Last week (about six weeks later) I got a text from her saying: "How are things. When can we meet for a catch up? Seems like an age since I last saw you."
So this is the precise text I sent her the next day and I want you kind folks to tell me whether this could have been interpreted as me having a dig at her:
"Hi Dot, nice to hear from you . When are you free? I am sometimes off midweek (which fits with her schedule) but am busy for the next couple of weeks. I recently got out of hospital after my lung collapsed. Another cancer scare but no cancer after all. How are you and is your house finished yet? Love Ethel xxx"
These are not our real names. But I have not heard a thing from her since and I am puzzled! I checked my phone and it says the message was delivered but this was a few days ago.
I thought about sending her another text asking her if everything was okay and again, I'm wondering if I've offended her, but another RL friend (male) thinks I'm being "too soft".
Sock it to me, Mumsnetters....
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stargirl04 · 14/02/2016 14:00
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