Just after a bit of advice really. Or wondering what you'd do in this situation?
An ex workmate of mine is with a man who quite frankly is a scumbag. She said so herself during their many breakups.
I don't see her anymore but we keep in touch via FB, she lives her entire life on FB, as some people do.
Anyway, she's 30, when I met her she was married with 3 kids under six, she wasn't getting on well with her husband. I think he cheated on her & certainly didn't treat her particularly well, used to call her fat & useless, didn't do much if any childcare, was always vanishing etc.
So eventually her husband left & she met a new man on POF, she fell head over heels for him & he'd moved in within weeks.
But they kept rowing, she was sure he was cheating, probably with hIs ex who he has a toddler with, he kept packing up & leaving and then coming back. Each time he left she vowed she'd not have him back and each time she did. She used to moan to me about him almost constantly.
Then she got pregnant, he left several times during her pregnancy, she also left our workplace during her maternity leave & moved in with her mum 100 miles away.
She's now had the baby, it's about 7m old, the BF has left & come back several more times. Each time he leaves she plasters it all over FB what a lying scumbag he is, how he takes drugs, drinks, cheats etc.
Then he comes back & she deletes all the posts.
A few weeks ago she posted a pic of her with blood all over her face. She said he'd hit her & that she was posting the pic so that f she was ever weak enough to take him back that people would remind her of this moment.
Of course, he's now back & she's posting the usual stuff about how amazing he is and how brilliant their relationship is, all those terrible 'if a couple is meant to be, they'll overcome all obstacles' quotes superimposed over a grainy pic of a happy couple.
So, WWYD? So far I've kept my mouth shut. But every time I see the posts I'm reminded about that (now deleted) post where she said to remind her about it if she took him back.
But I feel like it won't be welcomed. I will probably just get a load of abuse
I feel sorry for her kids, there's 4 now as well as his child, she's admitted he's a terrible dad, gets angry if kids cry or make a mess & shouts & screams at them. He's already shown he'll hit a woman, I'm not sure he wouldn't hit a child.
So, would you say anything to her?
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More a WWYD. friend and her partner.
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AchyMcAcherson · 20/01/2016 17:57
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21/01/2016 06:13
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