Basically DH and I got very friendly with my cousin and his then girlfriend. They came on holiday with us. DH actually employed my cousin as he had no job for a time. We went to their wedding. Gave them a load of furniture that we had in storage. We exchanged birthday and Christmas presents and all seemed happy.
Suddenly it all seemed to change. They were always to busy to meet up, once we asked them to an event and got them tickets and when they suddenly could not come due to double booked themselves we never got paid back. This was the second time this happened as they never paid us back for tickets for a quiz night we all attended earlier in the year.
DHs birthday did not receive a card or present then my birthday did not receive card or present. Christmas we sent their card to my grandmas so they could get it and my husband took the Christmas present to a Saturday morning tennis coaching session that cousin does. We did not get even get a Christmas card back.
So we think right they want to cool things so we stop making an effort, but I am pleasant and wish cousins girlfriend happy birthdays on Facebook and like some of her statuses etc as I do not want any bad feeling with being family.
This quiz night comes round again (annual thing) and we do not invite them. Just before this my husband is threatened with court action over a bill that cousin did not pay (my cousin took over the tennis sessions from DH and it took a while for names to be transferred over) it did get paid but very annoying, the excuse cousin gave is he forgot!!!
Next thing I know My uncle (cousins dad) is deleting me and DH on Facebook. Every time I see my aunt and uncle we are ignored. This Christmas has gone by and we did not get a Christmas card from aunt and uncle.
My mum and dad are aware of the situation but as mad as my mum is she still sent Christmas cards and was pleasant as she sees the situation as between the four of us.
My cousins sister (so yes also my cousin) is getting married in the summer and all the family have been invited except me and DH. So my mum and dad and my sister and her family have also declined the invitation (their choice we did not ask them to).
Well the shit has now hit the fan so to speak as you can imagine and my aunt and uncle have dragged by grandma into it and other family members. My mum has also told aunt and uncle a few home truths about their son and girlfriend which ended up in my aunt screaming at her for lying!!!
I just wish we had never got friendly with them, if they had just been friends and not family we could have just all have parted ways but because it's family it's all kicked off. Never again.
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Dollymixtureyumyum · 07/01/2016 10:45
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