OK, back story, sorry this is kind of long!
I have been with my DH for 6 years now, married for 2. He has 2 DDs, who I get on well with and they live with us half the time, and with their Mum half the time. His ex is a recovering alcoholic, but has been sober for a year ish now.
He and her are amicable (just, for most of the time) for the sake of the kids, but I've only met her once in passing, which resulted in texts to my DH calling me fat and ugly. My other encounters with her have been one sided face book messages from her to me full of abuse ect ect and that's been about it, but she constantly slags me toff to the kids and to my DH.
There are other examples of her kicking off but I'll try not to waffle.
I get on OK with his parents, but in general I find them slightly ignorant. We scrimped and saved to be blue to afford a house nearer the girls school, and for them to have their own rooms ( something PILs commented on a LOT until we finally got the deposit together to buy our current home). Anyway, we moved in in September, and they haven't been to see it once, despite invitations, and the fact they live less than a mile away.
Also when I go to theirs they just talk amongst themselves and I get asked the odd small talk question every half an hour or so, they nod and then go back to the main conversation, which is usually nothing I can really join in with, like about my FIL's business, or similar.
If you asked them how old I was, or where I worked, I don't think they would know, despite me being with their son for 6 years and helping to raise their DGC's.
We were supposed to go to my PILs for dinner today with the girls (they stayed at their Mums last night) for a belated Christmas meal.
An hour ago my DH got a phone call from his ex saying his parents had invited her for dinner! Now, there is no way I can go now without it being the most uncomfortable scenario you can even begin to imagine. For me, my DH and the DC's. I would assume she would have thought the same, but she's told DH she is going and isn't going to change her mind.
Now he's upset because it was supposed to be "our family meal" with his parents (who btw neglected to tell either of us they have invited his crazy ex wife! ). If she hadn't have told him, we would have just turned up none the wiser!
I've told DH if he wants to go alone I don't mind, but he's saying, no he won't go now. But he is upset as ex had the kids last night and is taking them to her side of the family tomorrow night, for a big do, then it's "her" week with the kids. (We do a week on a week off). So when wil he get quality Christmas time with me him and the kids?
He's left about half an hour ago to "speak" to his parents but I'm already dreading the outcome. He will end up upset, the DC's will end upset and he will no doubly end up having a row with his parents.
AIBU in thinking what the hell were they thinking?
Oh and just to point out, even though we don't get on great, they don't have mega love for the ex either! So it's not like they love her and hate me, or think if it wasn't for me DH would have got back with her or anything like that!
Sorry for waffling!
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19lottie82 · 26/12/2015 12:58
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